Gray’s “Elegy Written in a Country Churchyard” (“Sel’skoe kladbishche:
Elegiia,” 1802 ).
As with the poema,the implied gender norms of the elegy led women
poets to write them differently from men. Boris Tomashevsky observes
that the elegist made himself the hero of poems that described his feel-
ings of unrequited love, jealousy, grieving, sadness, and loneliness and
his thoughts about the end of youth or the approach of an untimely
death. The poet, Tomashevsky continues, by his use of the pathetic fal-
lacy, made nature a character that sympathizes with those feelings
(Pushkin, 1 : 120 ). That is, a male poet/protagonist grieves his lost love,
youth, or friend in the midst of a female-gendered nature. Since women
poets did not always feel comfortable with a female-gendered nature
(see chapter 2 ), we would expect their elegies to tell different stories.
We can infer other gender norms of the elegy from the work of the
twentieth-century American scholar Peter Sacks, whose influential
study of the English elegy may be applied to many nineteenth-century
Russian elegies.^41 Sacks’s discussion of the elegy is particularly male-
centered because he relies on the theories of Freud and Lacan, which of-
ten conflate the male with the human. For Sacks the elegy concerns the
“renunciatory experience of loss and the acceptance, not just of a sub-
stitute but of the very means and practice of substitution” (English El-
egy, 8 ). Sacks identifies the “means and practice of substitution” with the
capacity for symbolic behavior, and more specifically with the Oedipus
complex, thereby implicitly excluding women from art:
There is a significant similarity between the process of mourn-
ing and the oedipal resolution.... In the elegy, the poet’s pre-
ceding relation with the deceased (often assimilated with the
mother or Nature or a naively regarded Muse) is conventionally
disrupted and forced into a triadic structure, including the third
term, death (frequently associated with the father, or Time). The
dead, like the forbidden object of primary desire, must be sepa-
rated from the poet, partly by a veil of words.... [This] castra-
tive aspect should not be slighted, for it lies at the core of the
work of mourning.^42
Sacks claims that the Freudian model of mourning applies equally to
men and women, that both mourn in the same way their necessary “re-
nunciation of primary [sexual] desire,” “separation from [the] mother,”
and the “internalization and identification with the idealized parental
figure” (that is, the father) (English Elegy, 12 , 11 , 15 ). Whether or not this
is a true, other twentieth-century writers have suggested that women ad-
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