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Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.The other kind of humor to use is a mixture of comedy and self-confidence. It’s called a
negative hit (or “neg-hit” for short) and it’s a way of knocking a woman off her pedestal when
she needs it. This works best for women who start out very full of themselves. When you’re with
a woman who is a nine or a ten on the babe scale, she usually knows it, and she’ll try to out-
posture you by treating you like the supplicating wimp she suspects you might be. Here’s
another interaction, this time Jake encounters Helena, a stunner with long blonde hair:
Women don’t need to be idolized or otherwise put on a pedestal. In fact, the ones that
believe they ought to be are the ones that need to be knocked down the most. Underneath their
bravado, in fact, the best looking women are the most insecure, knowing that they are
appreciated mostly for their looks. Beautiful women often have the most fragile of egos, and
they are most susceptible to doubts and challenge. These women believe in their power over
men and respond most to men that they cannot easily conquer, the same way you respond to
unavailable women. You have to realize, gorgeous women are fawned over and salivated on all
day long. They’re used to it. And every man that gives the same dull compliments as the last
guy is dismissed as quickly. To get through to the attraction mechanisms of the pretty girls, you
have to do something that will show them challenge, and give them an opportunity to prove
themselves. That’s what Jake did with Helena, and that kind of playful jabbing works. Beautiful
women respond most to the withdrawal of attention, since it puts their fragile image most into
turmoil.
Women have a tremendous need to prove themselves to men. They want to prove they
can live up to the image of their mothers for their man. Their self-esteem is highly comparative,
and it relies on you for the feedback. They know other women aren’t going to tell them the Truth
(you’ve seen women cut each other down when the other isn’t around, haven’t you?), so you
are their mirror.
Helena: “So I thought maybe I’d go be a model in Europe this summer. My last boyfriend said I
have the body for it.”
Jake: “Oh, really.” (bored expression, does not look at her body the way she obviously wants him
to.) “I’m not sure you’re all that talented. Have you thought about the rodeo instead?”
Helena: (look of shock) “Rodeo?”
Jake: (slight smirk) “Oh, yeah. It’s not as glamorous as modeling, but you’ll tour a lot, and I hear
there are a lot of openings.”
Helena: “You don’t think I have a nice body?”
Jake: “It’s okay. You’re just a bit skinny for my tastes. Do you want to go get a burger or
something? I won’t think any less of you.” (Small smirk, so she knows he’s busting her chops)
Helena: ”You jerk!” (laughing, punches him, tries to act mad, but is now showing her insecurity)
“C’mon, you don’t think I could model?”
Jake: (still smirking) “I guess it depends on what you model. A bear suit, maybe? No, wait, how
about hospital uniforms?” (holds his nose to sound like an intercom) “Calling Nurse Helena, you’re wanted
in the O.R. for a photo shoot...”
Helena: “You idiot! You’re not funny!” (pouting with a little smile.)
Jake: “Tell you what, I’ll give this whole modeling thing some more thought over a drink. Your
treat, since I can’t get that picture of you in the rodeo out of my head. Deal?”What? He’s not swayed by my flowing hair and
pouty lips? Why? Am I unattractive?