The Dating Black book

© 2003 – Carlos Xuma. – DD Publications – All Rights Reserved –

• PREFACE: THE SCORPION AND THE FROG ........................................................................................... Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.


• INTRODUCTION ...........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • HOW IS THIS BOOK DIFFERENT THAN THE RULES, OR OTHER “SYSTEMS” WITH WOMEN? ..................................
  
  
  • WARNING: ..............................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • ANOTHER WARNING: ..............................................................................................................................
  
  
  • HOW TO USE THIS BOOK...........................................................................................................................
  
  
  
  


• GETTING STARTED – UNDERSTANDING RELATIONSHIPS ...............................................................
  
  
  • IT’S ALL SALES .....................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE PRINCIPLE OF TRUTH ..................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE VICIOUS CYCLE OF MALE SEX DESIRE.................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE COMFORT FACTOR AND THE NOVELTY SYNDROME...............................................................................
  
  
  • THE BIG TRAP...........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • WHAT IS YOUR GOAL? ...............................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SHADES OF GRAY, NOT BLACK-AND-WHITE................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE MYTH OF GAME PLAYING....................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SEXUAL POWER........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • HOW IS THIS MATERIAL ORGANIZED?...........................................................................................................
  
  
  • KEY TO THE SYMBOLS...............................................................................................................................
  
  
  
  


• INTERNAL GAME: GET YOUR GAME TOGETHER! ..............................................................................
  
  
  • BEHAVIORS THAT REDUCE ATTRACTION.....................................................................................................
  
  
  • MYTHS......................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Myth of “Destiny” .........................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Myth of the “Nice Guy”.................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Myth of the “Jerk”.........................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Myth of the “Player” .....................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Myth of the “Natural”....................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Myth of “Compatibility”.................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  • THE THREE S’S – THE KEY TO YOUR INNER GAME......................................................................................
  
  
  • TRUST......................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • RESISTANCE.............................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SUPPLEMENTAL TRAITS.............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Attitude................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Scarcity versus Abundance ................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Integrity ...............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  • CREATE A CODE FOR YOURSELF, AND A MISSION........................................................................................
  
  
  • THE CONFIDENCE TREADMILL....................................................................................................................
  
  
  • JUST SAY NO! (MEN) .................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • DO WHAT YOU KNOW YOU MUST..............................................................................................................
  
  
  • DELAYED GRATIFICATION – GO SLOW ......................................................................................................
  
  
  • ROLE MODELS..........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE BIG RULE: DOW! (DATE OTHER WOMEN!) .........................................................................................
  
  
  • SEND MIXED SIGNALS...............................................................................................................................
  
  
  
  


• EXTERNAL GAME .....................................................................................................................................
  
  
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    1. YOUR APPEARANCE AND PRESENTATION................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
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    2. YOUR CAR............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
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    3. YOUR HOME..........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  • DETAIL ORIENTATION.................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • CHIVALRY.................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • INITIATIVE..................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • GET YOURSELF A GOOD CO-PILOT............................................................................................................ Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.
  
  
  • ABF – ALWAYS BE FLIRTING!.....................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Flirting Methods ..................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  
  


• THE DATING CONTINUUM........................................................................................................................
  
  
  • PLANNING AND EXECUTION........................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE WOMAN YOU WANT............................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE THREE STAGES OF THE CONTINUUM....................................................................................................
  
  
  • MEET ......................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Introduction .........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Acclimation Training ...........................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Jump, and the Net Will Appear ...........................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Three Second Rule......................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Comfort Zone...............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Rejection .............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Detach Yourself from the Outcome ....................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Best Opening Line Ever...............................................................................................................
    
    
    • Close the Deal (Get the phone number and email) ............................................................................
    
    
    • Email ...................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Online Dating ......................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Speed Dating ......................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  • MATE ......................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Beware of “Dating” ..............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • TOP TEN DATING MISTAKES ..........................................................................................................
    
    
    • Availability ...........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Dating and Friendship.........................................................................................................................
    
    
    • ABB - Always Be Busy........................................................................................................................
    
    
    • First meeting .......................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Show Her Without Telling Her ............................................................................................................
    
    
    • Just Say No! (Women)......................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Close .................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • What do we talk about? ....................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Male Panic ........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • First Through Third Date...................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Kiss ............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Broken Dates – No-shows ................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Sexual Reversal Strategy .................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Big Test – The Doubt Dip ..........................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Dance of Attraction ....................................................................................................................
    
    
    • One Night Stands .............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Long Distance Relationships ............................................................................................................
    
    
    • Short term .........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Avoid the Premature “I Love You” ....................................................................................................
    
    
    • Paying the Bill ...................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Meet the Parents ..............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Long Term Strategies – To Marriage, And The Bitter End ...............................................................
    
    
    • Cheating............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Long-Term Relationship ............................................................................................................
    
    
    • Going Exclusive ................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Relationship Maintenance Program .................................................................................................
    
    
    • The Steal...........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  • MOVE ON..............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • The “End” ..........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Start again – Rejuvenation ...............................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  
  


• KINO OR KINESTHESIS: HOW AND WHEN TO USE YOUR TOUCH .................................................
  
  
  • FIRST: THE GROUND RULES.................................................................................................................... Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.
  
  
  • FIRST OF ALL, THE BAD. ...........................................................................................................................
  
  
  • NOW, THE GOOD......................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • GOOD PLACES TO TOUCH EARLY: .............................................................................................................
  
  
  • GOOD PLACES TO TOUCH A FEW DATES LATER: .........................................................................................
  
  
  • OTHER AREAS.........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • TICKLE KINO...........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SEXUAL KINO..........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • NLP - ANCHORING - SEDUCTION TECHNIQUES - ACCELERATORS...............................................................
  
  
  
  


• BASIC PSYCHOLOGICAL PRINCIPLES ................................................................................................1
  
  
  • PAIN/PLEASURE......................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SCARCITY AND APPRECIATION..................................................................................................................
  
  
  • FEMALE ATTRACTION...............................................................................................................................
  
  
  • DEFENSIVE SHIELDS................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • PSYCHOLOGICAL POSTURE......................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SELF-INTEREST.......................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • ADDICTION..............................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • CONTROL PRINCIPLE...............................................................................................................................
  
  
  • FEMALE BEHAVIOR..................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • WORDS AND ACTIONS..............................................................................................................................1
  
  
  • DRAMA AND MEANING..............................................................................................................................1
  
  
  • STROKED AND UN-STROKED....................................................................................................................
  
  
  • POISONOUS WOMEN...............................................................................................................................
  
  
  • DANGER SIGNS.......................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • WOMEN AT 30 .........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE PROGRAM WOMAN...........................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE HIGH-MAINTENANCE WOMAN............................................................................................................
  
  
  • PROFILE OF A GOOD WOMAN – THE FOUR ESSENTIAL QUALITIES..............................................................
  
  
  
  


• MALE-FEMALE COMMUNICATIONS
  
  
  • QUESTIONS.............................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • ARGUMENTS...........................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Feathers ............................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  • USE HUMOR AS A CALMING TACTIC...........................................................................................................
  
  
  
  


• WHAT WOMEN REALLY WANT .............................................................................................................
  
  
  • WOMEN WANT SEX.................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • VULNERABILITY / HONESTY / RISK / EMOTIONAL DISCLOSURE....................................................................
  
  
  • TESTS.....................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • GIVE THEM THE TEST..............................................................................................................................1
  
  
  • INVESTMENT MECHANISM........................................................................................................................
  
  
  • YOUR PARENTS.......................................................................................................................................
  
  
  
  


• DATING DYSFUNCTION..........................................................................................................................
  
  
  • MOODS...................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • DON’T ANSWER A WOMAN’S QUESTIONS..................................................................................................
  
  
  • OVERREACTING (MORE ABOUT WHY MOMMY ISN’T MAD ....) ....................................................................
  
  
  • BOUNDARIES...........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • JEALOUSY...............................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • CONTENTION PRINCIPLE..........................................................................................................................
  
  
  
  


• SEX............................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • COMMUNICATION.....................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • SKILLS....................................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • THE FEMALE SEX TYPES.......................................................................................................................... Unauthorized duplication or distribution is strictly prohibited. Visit http://www.datingdynamics.com for more information.
  
  
  • SEXUAL WEIRDNESS...............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Watch out for the "I Love You"..........................................................................................................
    
    
    • Crying................................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Infrequent Sex...................................................................................................................................
    
    
    • Manage Your Chi ..............................................................................................................................
    
    
    • One Last word...................................................................................................................................
    
    
    
    
  
  
  
  


• CLOSING ..................................................................................................................................................


• APPENDICES ...........................................................................................................................................
  
  
  • APPENDIX I: ATTITUDE ADJUSTERS.......................................................................................................
  
  
  • APPENDIX II: TOP TEN SIGNS YOU’RE IGNORING THE PRINCIPLE OF TRUTH.............................................
  
  
  • APPENDIX III: WHAT SHE SAYS/ WHAT SHE MEANS...............................................................................
  
  
  • APPENDIX IV: BRASH THINGS TO SAY....................................................................................................
  
  
  • APPENDIX V: PLACES TO MEET WOMEN................................................................................................
  
  
  • APPENDIX VII: BODY LANGUAGE...........................................................................................................
  
  
  • REFERENCES AND RECOMMENDED READING LIST:....................................................................................