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In this stage, you will:
1) Interview her in the context of romantic units of interaction called “dates”
2) See if she matches your criteria for your goal
3) From here on out be attentive and prepared to decide where and how far to go with
each woman you meet.Beware of “Dating” ..............................................................................................................................
I’ve used the term “dating” pretty loosely so far, and I think it demands a bit of
clarification. I realize that most men out there are used to the term and process of “dating.” The
typical date is where you ask a girl out to dinner and a movie.
I’d like you to start changing your approach. Stop “dating.” Instead, get her to meet you
at places where you can show her an interesting and unique time. Traditional dating is a
sabotaging pattern. When you “ask a girl out,” you are starting a mechanism in her mind that
says: “Oh, he’s attracted to me, and he wants to see if I’m a girlfriend/relationship/sex
possibility.” It’s a familiar dance step, and she knows all the moves.
What you must do is break from this mold. You are no longer looking to “date” in the
traditional sense. You are out there to excite women. Your premise is going to change, and you
must make this apparent to the women that you want to rendezvous with. When you ask a girl
out on a date, you trigger a whole set of defense mechanisms in her, and she will line them up
for you like an obstacle course. You want a short cut around them.
Here’s what to do:
Your first meeting is always an interview, a sort of get-to-know-you session. The
meetings you have with her after that are always set with an unspoken agreement that you want
to go out and have fun with her. Steer clear of these “traditional” date activities:
- Dinner at a restaurant – Shows no imagination, leaves you with a big bill and
her wondering if you paid just to obligate her to a kiss. Too much weirdness. - Movies – No interaction, no imagination, and if the movie is bad it ends up
reflecting on you. - Drinks at a bar – Too much of a singles scene, leaves you with the bill again,
and only good as a starting off point.
What you must do is come up with mini-adventures. Your job is to create an interesting
experience that she is interested in joining in with you. Some examples of meetings after the
first rendezvous:
- Games – take her to a miniature golf course, or a pool hall, or an arcade.
- Local Shops – find a strip of unusual stores to take her to. Underground CD
shops are great because they have an interesting culture, plus there is a lot
of stuff to browse through.