Leading with NLP

Vision and Values 59

Are there are more ways to violate your values than

ways to meet them? If your values are difficult to

meet, it would be very hard for you to be satisfied,

as you have many more opportunities to feel bad

than to feel good.

Alternatively, are there more ways for your values to be

met than violated? If so, it would be easy to meet

your values and you would have many more oppor-

tunities to feel good.

Now you have your values and the corresponding rules that
let you know they have been met, think about your goals.
What do you want? It’s your life. Is it leading you anywhere?

Personal Leadership Exercise 3:Your Goals

Take the five areas of your life (personal development,

work, relationships, leisure and health) and write down

the three or four main goals you have for each area.

Have a mixture of long-term goals (10 years or more in

the future), medium-term goals (5–10 years) and short-

term goals (the next 5 years).

Put down exactly what you want in the best of all pos-

sible worlds. Do not let your thinking be chained by

what is happening now.

How you will know when you have achieved these

goals?

What will happen, what will you be seeing, hearing

and feeling, when you achieve these goals?

Now think about each goal in turn. How far away do

they seem to be? Some may seem quite close. Others

will seem a long way away.

Do you have goals at different distances?

How do you feel about the near goals and the far goals?

How does the distance of the goals affect how

motivated you feel about achieving them?