can change your willingness to take action to change your reality,
and they can change your perception of reality. In those instances
where perception actually is reality, it may seem that your reality
changes. For this reason, usually it is not useful to limit the manner
in which your desire may come to you. Make the statements in your
affirmations as broad and general as possible. For example, we
don’t recommend using as an affirmation “My spouse now does
what pleases me”; “It is now easy for me to see the good intention in
the behavior of others” would be a better choice.Which Affirmation to Use?
Because the method you will be learning is interactive, it is not es-
sential to start with exactly the “right” affirmation. The process en-
courages your mind to lead you to the most effective affirmation.
On page 175 we provide a list of affirmations to start with. You can
apply the method you will be learning to every area of your life.
Thus, we present a menu of affirmations for your choice. Pick the
one that produces a strong emotional reaction in you—either it
makes you feel wonderful, or it produces an uncomfortable churn-
ing in your stomach or tightening in your jaw.
I (AF) want to tell you my experience with our affirmations
method. I know some of you may be thinking affirmations really
don’t work. Perhaps you’ve used them with no change in results.
I used to agree. I used affirmations diligently in the past, repeat-
ing them hundreds of times a day, with little or no results. I was
ready to give up on them until one day I heard Phil, as a guest
speaker on a teletraining call.
The call started out with an introduction of Phil and his topic
“Affirmations.” I thought, this is going to be a waste of time and I
was about to hang up. Affirmations don’t work.
Phil started his presentation and said: “Just speaking affirma-
tions out loud won’t produce permanent, significant results.” This
got my attention.
Phil discussed the method we are sharing with you now, and it
made sense to me. I ordered a copy of Money Is My Friendand a copy
of “Power Affirmations,” which was then an article.
I used the methods and made progress very quickly. For the first
time I really got in touch with what was in my mind. I was able to
quickly and permanently change the thoughts that were holding
me back from achieving success. By using this information daily164 Mental Flexibility for Peak Performance