insecure. I was placing a lot of importance on the outcome of this date because I liked
her and didn’t want to blow it.
And the bad thing was – I was still in Rapport with Carrie!
This means that when I met her for dinner, my emotions had a direct influence on her
because we were still in rapport.
So all the negative feelings I was experiencing were things she started to feel. And she
picked up on it right away – that’s why she asked me if everything was okay when I
joined her, because she could sense something was different from when we first met.
As a natural instinct, us humans want to move away from pain and discomfort. We don’t
like experiencing that stuff, and we do anything not to experience them.
So when she started feeling awkward and nervous during our date, she subconsciously
severed her emotional connection with me to safeguard herself. And once that
connection was severed, any attraction she felt for me started to evaporate.
And because we were in rapport, I could sense when that happened, which is why I
walked out of that restaurant feeling I had blown it!
(See, rapport works both ways!)
Had I been able to control my emotions and experienced feelings of comfort, fun, and
happiness, and just been in the moment with her instead of putting pressure on myself
about what was to come, that date would have ended very differently.
This is a common thing that happens all the time. We blow our chances because we have
rapport with a woman and we send her all the wrong emotions to experience.
This is a big reason why women love confident guys, because when we feel confident
and are in rapport, the woman we are with feels safe, secure, and comfortable – because
that’s what we feel.
The same is true in approaching. If you approach a woman, and you’re nervous and
scared, if you get rapport with her, guess what she’ll experience? Nervousness and fear!
This is often why so many guys have trouble with rejection, because they is able to gain
rapport with the woman they approach, but they give her a wave of bad emotions that
scare her away.
Remember: women are very empathetic. They are hypersensitive to emotion, and
respond very easily to it.
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