The Art of Approaching

(Rick Simeone) #1

TIPS FOR AN ACTIVE SOCIAL LIFE


Now that we’ve covered the basics, let’s go into specifics.


Tip 1: Be Positive – Look at each person you meet as an opportunity to make a new
friend, and assume the person you want to meet will like you and want to be your friend!
Positivity is attractive, and you will have people gravitate towards you when you project
it.


Tip 2: Don’t be clingy – Part of having a good social life is having options. Don’t
smother someone with your friendship. Sometimes you have to take breaks from people
in order to keep a friendship going. Part of having lots of friends is that you aren’t
desperate for companionship. People like other people who don’t really need them,
because it offers a sense of freedom and casualness in every interaction.


Tip 3: Keep in touch – It’s foolish to wait around for other people to call you. If you
want to keep friendships alive and healthy, communication is vital! Call people up, email
them, send them letters, do whatever it takes to keep lines of communication open.
Otherwise, you run the risk of being forgotten about.


Tip 4: Keep informed – Be a hub of information. Know what fun events, such as parties
or gatherings, are taking place. Know what you’re friends are up to on the weekend or a
certain night. Call them up or email them to find out. Keep tabs on everyone’s schedules.
Not only does this help you to know who to hang out with and when, but other people
will call you to find out what’s going on as well.


Tip 5: Be a planner – The best outings are the ones with lots of people. Take the
initiative to introduce your friends to each other and strengthen your social circle. This is
important because the more people you introduce your friends to, the more people they’ll
want to introduce you to. Planning outings can take some work, what with having to call
people up, figure out where to go, what time to meet, etc., but it can be incredibly
rewarding.


Tip 6: Invite others out – Too many people just wait around for the phone to ring.
There’s no shame in taking action and calling people up to see if others want to hang out
with you. If you have something planned, even better! Most people are lazy, and if
offered an opportunity to do something fun that requires little planning on their part,
they’ll do it.


Tip 7: Invite yourself – If a friend of yours has something going on, ask them if you can
come along. Nine times out of ten they will say “yes.” This isn’t rude, just ask “Mind if


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