242
insecurity
escaping from the trap of, 17–18
putting yourself down, 18
raising your self-esteem, 19
reaching out to others, 19
InSite, The (Web site)
anger section, 14
chat rooms, 20
creation of, 1
eating disorders section, 28
sex section, 100
Invisible Woman, The, 27
J
jealousy
definition of, 78–79
managing feelings of, 78–80
responding to, 73, 80
between siblings, 203–204
K
keeping promises. Seeagreements, keeping
Kirberger, Kimberly, 105
Kranz, Rachel, 14
L
late, being, 76
lesbians. Seehomosexuality
Lieberman, E. James, 100
Like It Is: A Teen Sex Guide, 100
loneliness
and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, 38
reaching out to others, 20–21
vs.being alone, 19
looks
and body size/weight, 26–27, 29–30
books about, 27
focusing on your good points, 24–25
improving your relationship with your body,
25–26
media myths about, 24, 25
problems with breast size, 28–29
Web sites dealing with, 28
love
definition of, 41
at first sight, 37
types of, 41
vs.lust, 41–42
lying. SeedishonestyM
mediators, using, 234
mentors, finding, 168–169
middle children, 201–202
Munter, Carol H., 27
N
name-calling, 75
National Council on Alcoholism and Drug
Dependence (hotline and Web
site), 212
National Domestic Violence Hotline, 108
Nelson, Richard E., 146
P
Packer, Alex J., 197
parent-child relationships
building trust, 192–193, 195, 197
challenges of parenting, 167–168
communicating with your parents, 173–174,
190–191
dealing with divorce, 182–184
dealing with parents’ concerns about dating,
187–190, 196
finding a mentor, 168–169
getting along with stepparents, 181–182
grieving for a parent, 176–177
keeping agreements, 185–187
losing phone privileges, 191–192
parents’ mistakes, 167
parents who aren’t there for you, 168
picking your own clothes, 170–171
respecting privacy, 179–180, 192, 194, 196
responding to criticism, 172–173, 175
responding to grade pressure, 184–185,
191–192
responding to racist parents, 180–181
and the struggle for independence, 169–173
telling parents you’re gay, 177–179
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians & Gays
(PFLAG) (Web site), 178–179
peer pressure
to be cool, 156–157
to be unfriendly, 8–9
to cheat, 33–34
to disobey parents, 6–7
to do what is wrong, 157–158, 159–160
to have sex, 158–159
to not date someone, 9–10The Teen Survival Guide to Dating and Relating