Omar Zaid: Taqua of Marriage [email protected]
Chapter One
What You Need to Know
Wisdom for Husbands
The existence and use of your phallus may qualify you as
a reproductively mature male of the human species, but
this does not meet the criteria of a rightly guided father
or husband! To qualify for the degree of these
responsibilities you must learn how to govern, guide,
protect and provide for the creatures of Allah whom
your phallus indicates are your charges! To administer your household with
wisdom, it is absolutely necessary that you understand the limitation of your
abilities and adjust your vision to the collective aspirations of your family and
community in order to reasonably approach these goals according to capacity
and resources. This requires insight, first for yourself and subsequently for
each person under your right hand; the most important of whom is your wife
or wives. Unfortunately, most men are not taught how to love or guide their
women and children, let alone govern their own soul. How then can they
intelligently manage a family with wisdom? Insha’Allah, this reading will
help advance you to the front ranks of manhood as a true slave of Allah.
Your wife is not your servant, nor is she your subject, employee, possession or
toy! She, like you, is Allah’s servant and his possession, and she’s been
specifically assigned to you as your most intimate ally and companion in the
struggles of life. You may have purchased the right to enter her body with
your phallus as you wish, but you did not purchase her person or soul. These
belong to Allah and are not for sale. As the acquisition of knowledge is an
Islamic requirement, and as you are your wife’s Imam and Wali, you are
therefore obligated by Allah to understand, at the very least, her most basic
needs. These are seven in number. There are more, but this is a good place
to begin after you have earned the right to sign a contract for the first kiss.
When a man fails to provide his wife with an appropriate environment and
protection from outer and inner enemies of her nature and purpose, she has
no choice but to make the attempt to do this for herself, albeit at the cost of