so that he touches the world with his tongue in order to learn the names of
things and thus, bring forth the newly awakened faculty of speech while at
the same time he is both running away from or to his often terrified mother.
A reversal now takes place in the relationship between child and elders. Up
to this point, the elders have been pleasing (pleasuring) and comforting the
baby almost on a continuum. But now the toddler begins the long hard road
of learning how to please (comfort) its elders. Somehow, along the many
biased roads of this learning process, trust and faith are left behind by far too
many humans, and “comfort” becomes the primary goal for both generations
at the cost of Allah's remembrance. When faith in God and trust in divine
governance (authority) are divorced from the experience of human touch, the
momentary pleasure and comforts of sensuality are all that remain to
permeate the human soul, and thus it is that many become profligates
destined for hell as they repeatedly pursue this lust of the flesh in vain.
Obsessively they are searching for the real comfort of as-Sakkinah which they
desperately need but which their experience has denied them any cognizance.
Lost in carnality, men beat their wives into submission and polyandrines
subconsciously pursue the love of God in the arms of far too many men whom
they grow to despise.
When the balanced integration of faith, trust, and comfort fail to incarnate
with the soul with respect to human touch, perversion and deviation are the
only possible outcomes. However, when properly integrated during the first
three years of life, the process metamorphically evolves into the experience of
true erotic bliss in adulthood, when two completely independent well
integrated souls choose to unite and remember Allah by pursuing the
perfection of taqua in holy marriage. Therein the woman must be gently
fathered by her husband who takes her in his strong arms to cradle, caress,
kiss and speak the words of love and perform the deeds that affirm her faith,
so that soul and body securely rest in his embrace as his potent manhood
enters her holy cavern to initiate the miracle of human re-creation as they
enter the ‘Rest of God’ together.
On the other hand, the man must be mothered , played with and teased by his
wife as their hands, lips and tongues playfully explore erogenous zones in the
memory of the trust gained in infancy when both were snuggled and touched
with gentle intimacy by their parents. Together they touch each other in love