neither desire nor pleasure, because it is the wife's pleasure that confirms his
masculinity as the dominator or guide of her pleasure or comfort, or: Rest in
God. Rough touch and haste only result in tension, non-lubrication of the
vagina, and muscular spasticity (vaginismus), which are direct reflections of
an infant's reaction to similar handling.
Though a man is instantly ready and more than prepared to swiftly enter and
complete his mission of pelvic thrusting, Allah has so ordered his wife's
response to resist him until he performs the rituals of erotic protocol:
(1) He must inform her of his desire (i.e. make an appointment with
romantic appeal and good behavior);
(2) When he arrives at her door he must announce himself and greet her
in peace;
(3) He must stand aside in gentle foreplay until his call is acknowledged
by the release of her vaginal lubrication which then opens the door.
This ritual sexual etiquette is demanded of him as a discipline no different
than ritual solat which opens the door of heaven to receive his prayer. The
socialization of this approach to intimate marital relations engenders the
maturation and growth of trust and faith for both, and is one reason why wise
women prefer older men. The sexual protocols teach him patient diplomacy
required for the society of hypocrites at large, which, when achieved honestly,
reflects the couple's marital taqua unmistakably in all manner of expression,
especially when men and women see them looking lovingly at each other
across the room in the middle of a gathering of habitual liars.
This marital taqua is achieved through the constant mutual application of
loving touches that lead to and accompany intercourse as a recapitulation of
the infant's experience that remains a deeply embedded subconscious
remembrance throughout life. The babe's yearning and profound need for
the reassurance that Allah has not abandoned it after the long journey
(descent) from heaven, is not to be taken lightly and is certainly a factor
which the psychiatric community completely ignores. Consequently it is no
wonder they have developed so many confounding theories! Anyway, the
remembering of this infantile reassurance is what is rehearsed each time we
have sex, whether consciously or not.