The Taqua of Marriage

(Dana P.) #1

outlaws, and these, in the writer’s opinion, are more readily returned to virtue
than hardened hypocrites (again see vs. 63:2-3). In other words, I have more
respect for an honest thief than the CEOs of so-called Islamic Banks.
Unfortunately, the present society is so deviantly ordered and ignorant, that
the comfort seeking behaviors described above have now invaded the latent
years of childhood. Adolescence therefore, is a common road to
institutionalized hypocrisy as a way of life when not guided by truth during
childhood latency and by justice during puberty.


An entire culture may become enmeshed in hypocrisy as normative behavior
such as America is today. Another example is found among tribes of the
Malay Peninsula where promises between Muslims are customarily made in
pretense. This cultural norm demands the appearance of good intentions at
the moment the promise is made. The practice is so wide-spread that the
phrase ‘Insha’Allah’ is a dead giveaway meaning nothing is really intended or
expected. However, throughout all Scripture, we are taught to speak true and
not to make false promises. Therefore, when the child awakens to Insha’Allah
people, and especially if they are the parents and near relatives, a conflict
begins that is irresolvable with respect to the professed tradition and fitrah ,
and all too often it is the expressed religious tradition that triumphs rather
than truth.


This is because the Promise(s) of God is/are repeatedly pronounced and
fulfilled and the sunnah of the Prophet(s) confirms this; yet the sunnah of the
child’s community disaffirms what they are taught is honorable, and the two
contradictory codes of honor cannot be taken as Islam’s deen. This anomaly
is irresolvable without repentance, and it deepens in gravity when graver sins
are covered over by Insha’Allah people. And since the community is too
proud to admit its sin, the child is forced to accept sin as a normal addendum
to its religion and deen, and this conflict of interest has no resolution other
than engendered hypocrisy as described above, or honest rebellion; and this
situation certainly does not foster the Taqua of marriage. Hence, where the
infant begins its journey of trust, the adolescent is reformed to accept
mistrust and misdeeds as presented by Mohammad’s so-called vice-regents.
It is then instructed to honor its hypocritical parents. Such is life.


To summarize: the pre-primordial Promise that the infant seeks to affirm and
confirm is what the latent child seeks to understand define and extend

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