The most obvious reason is their lack of submission to the Will of God, as
evidenced by the gross disobedience and injustice (lack of adab ) that blankets
the earth’s surface with sin. Most Muslims even consider adab to be the
politically correct hypocrisy of superfluous social etiquette and religious
ritual, so common amongst the Malay set for example. However, the lack of
marital wisdom ‒ that is, the implementation of justice by husbands towards
their women (wives and daughters) ‒ is the cause of the many failures to
execute both monogamous and polygamous models successfully, and by
extension, this is also a major contributing factor to overall social injustices,
most especially in the Muslim milieu.
If a man is not plugged-in to God’s Wisdom and grace through Prayer and
Submission via obedience and knowledge, the marriage will fail or flounder in
low tide upon beaches or rocks of tradition. Such a marriage will never set
sail upon the sea of God’s Purpose and Cause because he is an unqualified
Captain. It follows also that if a woman has a Godly husband ‒ “Godly”
meaning much more than merely religious ‒ but she does not willingly
submit to him, then God’s Word will cut off her marriage to him and remove
her from his life! This was the case of King David and the daughter of Saul for
example. These spiritual laws cannot be circumvented.
When an unmarried woman sees a man’s wisdom reflected in his demeanor
and especially by the joy of his lawful wife, she will be naturally drawn to him
and will willingly submit even as mistress or undisclosed wife because of the
present miscarriage of God’s justice in the earth regarding marriage.
Therefore, do not be alarmed any longer at the number of such liaisons,
because it is the natural order that has been supplanted by mankind’s
departure from truth. The psychobabble of the last three generations cannot
apologize for the existence of family disorder outside of God’s Laws.
Therefore, consider these seven metaphysical laws that govern the headship
of your role as husband (Imam and Wali). If you take these realities to heart,
rest assured your wife or wives will submissively follow you in peaceful
security and without the threat of disloyalty in any way. She/They will praise
you to friends and delight you continually in ways many men can only dream
of. Your own dignity as God’s Slave will be raised to heights not thought
possible, because she/they will do everything possible to see that your
ambitions are fulfilled and your fantasies realized. Most importantly of all,