Wisdom for Wives^
“O woman, give charity, for I have surely seen
that you form the majority of the inhabitants of
hell ... because you curse too much, and are
ungrateful for good treatment (on the part of
your husbands.”
( Fath al-Bari , 3/325)
“... because they are ungrateful for good and kind
treatment. Even if you treated one of them well
for an entire lifetime, then she saw one fault in
you, she would say, ‘I have never seen anything
good from you.”
(ibid, 1/83)Adam’s Rib
Ingratitude towards husbands is equated with ingratitude towards Allah
SWT. It reflects pride and a sense of entitlement that obscures a woman’s
creaturehood and absolute dependence upon Allah and hence, turns her
mind away from the Hereafter to the dunja. Therefore beware dear ladies.
To nurture life by reflecting the wisdom of your precious nature is your
purpose. Your task in the deen of marriage is to help your husband’s
submission to Allah. By virtue of the hard ground of your own submission in
marriage, it, like water, carves the path for the river of your husband’s
purpose and completes his maturity. It is said that woman is created from his
rib, so very close to his heart.^12 Ribs protect the vital organs (heart and lungs)
of respiration, a process that exchanges impure gas for what is pure and
essential, and distributes it to the body (family). Thereby, our blood
(metaphysically and materially) continually renews then recycles a kind of
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“Treat woman kindly. Woman was created from a rib. She will never be straightforward and
consistent for you in any way. If you enjoy her you will do so in spite of her crookedness. If
you try to straighten her, you will break her, and her breaking is her divorce.”
(Bukhari and Muslim)