placated servant
Her submission was an act of traditionally sponsored resignation that
became the norm. What was she to think of men who rejected the
commands of Al’Qur’an and the advice of the Prophet as she read hadith,
Scripture and sunnah? That is, provided she had access and could read. The
creature called ‘husband’ was an intimate alien soul; often neglectful and
uncommunicative , and seemingly indifferent to the songs Allah had placed
within her breast. Harshly was she spoken to and even beaten or divorced at
his whim. What indeed was he thinking after he left her holy cave to stare
into the fire after bidding her ‘be silent’!
The prophet she could comprehend, but what of the lout she was
commanded to obey? So easily confused or angered was he at the slightest
imposition of her concerns, how is it Allah created him as her other-half in
the trials of life? How is it that one moment they bow together in solat and in
the next she becomes the focus of his fury? Where indeed was her earthly
refuge of contentment and peace to be found ( As-Sakkinah )—in her children
only? Resigned to her position as servant rather than mate, she used her
wiles to placate the fool and obtain what favor possible, knowing full well the
day would come when he tired of her charms: the only thing that truly bound
them and kept his undivided attention if but a few moments. But this is not
virtue or taqua , it is mere convenience!
This division is a symptom of a fatal illness incivility iii that afflicts the ummah
still and globally so! The illness is ignorance and the cure is knowledge,
without which the divorce rates will continue to soar because the Muslim has
lost the dominion even of his foolish tyranny. Sexuality is far more than the
genital identity and function described by the word nikah. The entire
sexuality of a person, including thought pattern, behavior, instinctive drives,
body language, perceptive abilities, sub-conscious sensitivities, sentience,
physical characteristics, emotional proclivities, talents and sexual responses
are well defined by naturally manifest norms of two formative (somatic) and
functional developmental archetypes. These complementary gender related
traits and the bodily substrates that guide them are scientifically established
as almost completely differentiated between male and female, and the
difference is so pronounced that one might as well attempt to equate a leaf
with the symbiotic vine that supports it.