Chapter11
THE 13 MOST
COMMON GESTURES
YOU'LL SEE DAILY
The number one gesture cluster women
can't tolerate men doing at workPeople rarely think consciously about the effect of many of the
seemingly simple non-verbal things they do. For example,
when one person hugs another, most observers silently assume
that the back patting that occurs towards the end of the hug is
a gesture of affection and that the air kisses made - the sound
made on the side of someone's cheek - is also affection. The
reality is that the pat is used in the same way professional
wrestlers use it - to tell the other person to end the hug and
break the clinch. If you are really not too keen about hugging
someone but are forced into it because the people ahead of you
did it, you're likely to begin the back patting in the air even
before the hug begins. The air kiss - with its accompanying
sound - is given as a displacement of a real kiss that we don't
want to give either.