The Definitive Book of Body Language

The Definitive Book of Body Language

Why Women Always Call the Shots

Ask any man who usually makes the first move in courtship

and he will invariably say that men do. All studies into

courtship, however, show that women are the initiators 90% of

the time. A woman does this by sending a series of subtle eye,

body and facial signals to the targeted man, who, assuming he

is perceptive enough to pick them up, responds to them. There

are men who will approach women in a club or bar without

being sent the green light but, while some of these men are reg-

ularly successful with finding partners, their overall statistical

success rate is low because they weren't invited first - they're

simply playing the numbers game.

In courtship, women call the tunes most of

the time - men do most of the dancing.

In these cases, if a man detects that his approach will be
unsuccessful he's likely to pretend he's come to talk to her
about other unrelated things and he will use corny lines like,
'You work at the National Bank don't you?' or Aren't you
John Smith's sister?' To be successful in courtship by playing
the numbers game a man has to approach a lot of women to
make a sale - unless, of course, he looks like Brad Pitt. Any
man who crosses the floor to chat up a woman has usually
done so at her request after picking up her body language
signals. It just looks as if he made the first move because he
made the walk across the floor. Women do initiate up to 90%
of flirtatious encounters but it is done so subtly that most men
think they are the ones taking the lead.

Differences Between Men and Women

Men find it difficult to interpret the more subtle cues in
women's body language and research shows that men tend to