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letter. Express appreciation for

the opportunity to learn while

there.

If there is an exit interview,

she can describe what was good

and bad about her experience.

— Liz

Liz: Thank you for

supplementing my answer to

“Quitting Time” with actual and

practical advice.

In addition to sending a paper

letter of resignation, however, I

would also suggest sending

notification of her resignation

via email. That way she knows

that the resignation has been

received and read.

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weekend “staycation” at their

home while the parents enjoy a

brief getaway. If that goes well

for everyone, you can venture

further afield, possibly hosting

overnights at your home.

Dear Amy: “Quitting Time”

wrote to you because she had

been at her first job after college

for four years and was wholly

sick of it.

She’d found another job and

expressed that she would love to

make one of those viral “I-quit”

videos, but acknowledged that

it’s probably not a wise decision.

She asked for advice on how to

quit.

Your answer went into great

detail about the drawbacks of

those videos, but you gave her

no guidance on how to quit her

job.

She should write a letter of

resignation (not email). Give

two-weeks notice. Don’t go into

detail about what is wrong with

the company in the resignation

families take three-generation

vacations, but for many hard-

working parents, a vacation

entails actually leaving extended

family in place as they break

new ground and create

memories with their children.

(And yes, once parents have

children, they form a nuclear

family with their kids, and their

siblings and parents become

part of their extended family.)

Once covid restrictions ease,

you could explore the idea of

taking your grandchildren on an

Elderhostel retreat. These

educational programs are

designed for grandparents to

enjoy alongside their grandkids.

Check roadscholar.org for

adventures such as exploring

Yosemite and seeing Broadway

shows in New York City.

If the children are too young,

or if this idea is too daunting,

you might start smaller and see

if your daughter and her

husband are willing to

relinquish the children for a

Dear Amy: My husband and I

are good parents and

grandparents. We are always

available when needed, and our

relationship with our daughter

and her husband is pretty good.

The problem is that they never

come to our home, even though

they live only 45 minutes away.

Additionally, every time I have

suggested that we take a family

vacation together (one that I

would pay for), they react with

negativity.

I think her husband has some

social issues, but he acts fine

when we visit them for a few

hours. We are not young, and

being with our grandkids is the

highlight of our lives! I think

that our daughter believes that

“family” is just the four of them.

We try to respect her rules

and boundaries, but her

behavior is very hurtful. Any

suggestions?

— Tired of Trying

Tired: I realize that some

advice?

— Devastated

Devastated: Invite everyone. No

matter the provocation, your

sister “Wendy” is at fault for

sending an offensive text, which

includes an absolute. Her choice

to do this is not your fault or

your responsibility, and when

she did this, she should have

considered the fact that

“Cynthia” is a member of the

family and — as you say — “is

not going anywhere.”

Let Wendy know that you are

inviting everyone, as you always

do.

And if Wendy wants to join

your party at Easter, she needs to

figure out how she can see

Cynthia’s (expletive) face.

The Easter holiday is meant to

celebrate rebirth, resurrection,

and the promise of spring. I

hope your sister Wendy takes

this opportunity to apologize to

Cynthia for her abominable and

offensive choice.

Dear Amy: For
many years I have
invited my
brother “Steve”
and sister
“Wendy” and
their spouses to celebrate Easter
with us.
It has always been a lovely day
despite the fact that Wendy and
our sister-in-law (Steve’s wife,
“Cynthia”) don’t get along.
Frankly, Cynthia is a very
difficult person and has made
Steve’s life miserable much of
the time, but they’ve been
married more than 50 years and
she’s not going anywhere.
Problems reached the
breaking point recently, and
Wendy had had enough. She sent
Cynthia a nasty text telling her
off and saying she hoped never
to see her (expletive) face again.
I know that if I invite Steve
and Cynthia this year, Wendy
won’t come, and even though I’d
rather have Wendy, I can’t
exclude my brother Steve. Any

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