reassure you, but you don’t need to keep her completely in the
picture because she doesn’t worry about it.
Yo u r p a r t n e r m a y n e e d c o n s t a n t r e a s s u r a n c e t h a t y o u l o v e
them and may need to be told several times a day. You might
prefer to be told less frequently but when it’s genuinely felt—
so you would have a rule that you’d mention it often, but she
didn’t have to say it back every time. Different strokes for dif-
ferent folks.
THE HAPPIEST
RELATIONSHIPS ARE
WHERE BOTH PARTIES
SEE THE NEED FOR
FLEXIBILITY IN
THEIR RULES.