Reader’s Digest Australia & New Zealand – May 2019

May• 2019 | 111

sleep.Chancesarethingswilllook

differentinthemorning.

23 Whenpeoplesaymarriage

is hard,believethem.

24 Ifyou’regoingtocomplain

aboutsomething,cometothetable

witha suggestedalternative.

25 Hatredis perfectlynormalunder

thecircumstances.Don’tfreakout

aboutit ortakeit tooseriously.

26 Don’tkidyourselfintothinking

youhaveallthetimeintheworld.

27 Donotunderestimate

howirritatingyourspouse’sslightly

irritatingbehaviourswillbecome

overtime.

28 Ifyouwantsomething,recognise

thatit’syourjobtoaskforit.

29 Thelouderyourspouse

yells,thequieterandcalmer

youneedtobe.

30 Disappointmentisinevitable.

Lifegetsa loteasieronceyou

acceptthis.

31 Therearenoguaranteed

divorce-proofingmoves.

Allanyofuscandois bea

husbandora wifeourspouse

wouldbefoolishtoleave.

32 Sometimesyou’re goingto

doyourunfairshare.It’snotworth

whiningabout.

33 Acceptapologiesgraciously.

34 Beinghappilymarriedisnotthe

sameaslivinghappilyeverafter.

35 Marriagewillteachyoumore

aboutyourselfthanyoubargained

for.Considerthata gift.

8 Establishearlyonwhetherthe
question“Dothesepantsmake
melookfat?”isa trueyes-or-no
question.
9 Admityourshortcomings.
They’reobviousanyway.
10 Mostofyourfightsareliving
proofofyourimmaturity.Thesooner
yougrowup,thehappieryou’llbe.
11 Inlovepalesincomparison
withlove.
12 Whenyouthinkyou’vetried
everything,knowthatyouhaven’t.
13 Cleanis a relativeterm.
14 Giveupallhopeofbeing
perfectlyunderstood.
15 Beingrightwilleventually
loseitsappeal.
16 Manyofthethingsyoufight
hardforwillturnoutnottohave
beenworththefight.
17 Yourdefinitionofsexywill
changeovertime.Newdefinition:
husbandgoingoutinthepouring
raintolatchtheslamminggate.
18 Bethefirsttoapologise.Really.
It’snotaspainfulasit sounds.
19 Paymoreattentiontowhat
you’redoingtomakethingsgo
badly,andpaylessattentionto
whatyourspouseis doing.
20 W henyourspouse’sbehaviour
isopentointerpretation,ascribethe
highermotive.
21 It’sidiotictostayuplatearguing
aboutbeingtootiredtohavesex.
22 Forgetthenonsenseabout
not going tobedangry.Getsome
FROM SPEAKINGOFMARRIAGE.COM (DECEMBER 8, 2013), © 2013 BY WINIFRED M. REILLY.