love & lust
ILLUSTRATIONS BY PATRICK GEORGE. ORGASM SPECTRUM SOURCE: DEBBY HERBENICK; BARRY KOMISARUK, DISTINGUISHED PROFESSOR AT RUTGERS UNIVERSITY WHO HAS STUDIED THE FEMALE ORGASM FOR 30 YEARS. C
OREGASM SOURCE:
THE COREGASM WORKOU
T BY D
EBBY H
ERBENICK
COSMOPOLITAN July 2015 141
I’ve had straight friends tell me that they would tell their
man what they want, but they’re nervous about making
him feel bad. That needs to stop. It’s possible lesbians
are better at saying “Do it this way.” But oral sex, fingers,
toys, role-play: it’s all stuff available to every gender and
sexuality. (Studies do show lesbians are more likely to
have oral sex and use vibrators, so there’s one clue.) It
might be hot to fantasise that he senses what you need,
but that’s a fantasy. Speak up. There’s nothing sexier than
someone whispering what they want you to do to them.
WE’LL HAVE WHAT
SHE’S HAVING!
83 PER CENT OF LESBIANS SURVEYED SAID THEY HAVE ORGASMS
MOST TIMES THEY HAVE SEX, COMPARED TO 56 PER CENT OF
STRAIGHT WOMEN. ARIEL SCHRAG HAS THOUGHTS AS TO WHY
The coregasm workout
Exercise-induced orgasms are no myth. These
moves could help you lose it in your Lulus
Doing it
together
- GIVE YOURSELF THE FINGER. If you
need clitoral love during P in the V,
buzzing a fingertip vibe – try the
Lelo Finger Vibrator ($53.95, wild
secrets.com.au) – on your clitoris
during doggie is a game changer. - GET IT ON BEFORE YOU START
BARHOPPING not after. Alcohol
makes you want to jump your
partner’s bones, but it produces
vasocongestion, down-there swelling
that keeps him from going deep,
which can make it harder for you to
finish. Tequila is a cruel mistress. - SEX SHOULD NOT FEEL LIKE
WINTER’S BONE. Lube it the eff up,
please (both you and your partner,
before and/or during The Naughty).
Almost 50 per cent of women say
lube makes it easier to orgasm. And
forget the myth that it’s just for older
women – all the cool kids do it. - TELL HIM TO SLIDE A FINGER (or
two) into you while he uses his
mouth on your Georgia O’Keeffe.
Internal and external play is twice
as nice for your orgasm chances. - DON’T YOU AND HE FORGET, the
clitoris extends down our labia in
the shape of a wishbone. So he
should lick or stroke the labia while
down there. Hello, O! - GOOD MORNING! Many women
prefer getting it on in the AM. No
beer slowing down the sparks, no
calzone exacting revenge... - TRACK YOUR CRIMSON WAVE
- on the 13th day of your cycle
(right before you ovulate), your
testosterone levels peak, resulting
in a high sex drive and bigger
orgasm potential.
- 75 PER CENT OF WOMEN TOLD
COSMO they need to feel close to
someone to orgasm. You don’t have
to get it on with a life partner to get
it off, but Herbenick has this advice:
“Pick someone who’s nice to you
and you feel cares about you.” >
O, REALLY? THE MAMMAL WITH THE LARGEST
CLITORIS IS THE SPOTTED HYENA.
COSMO
SURVEY
ages 18 to 24
ages 25 to 29
30s
It gets better with age
and experience!
HAVE YOU
EVER HAD AN
ORGASM?
84%
92%
96%
HOW TO HAVE AN ORGASM
exactly^
- LEG RAISES. Lie flat on back
with arms at sides and legs at
90 degrees (a). Bend knees
slightly and lower legs slowly.
As your back starts to arch,
return to start (b). Do 10 reps. - KNEE RAISES ON
A CAPTAIN’S CHAIR.
Step onto foot
platforms and
tighten abs, like
you’re about to be
punched in the gut
(a). Lift knees
towards chest,
keeping back flat
against the chair
(b), and then return
to dangling position.
Do 20 times.
a
a
b b