SHE SAYS:“I need to
know more about what
you like and dislike.”
DO THISShare your
Netflix queues. Keep
your hair on; it’s not like
it’s your credit card PIN.
For couples, sharing is
all upside. It’s a subtle
way of conveying
commitment: it says,
“I trust you enough to
reveal my daily life”,
says Dr Timothy Loving,
apsychologistatthe
University of Texas at
Austin.
SHE SAYS:“I’m not sure
where this is going.”
DO THISPlan ahead
- way ahead. Preempt
this conversation by
filling your calendar
withfunstuffyouliketo
do together, says
relationship coach
DeAnna Lorraine.
Enthusiasm is key. If
you’re just casual, keep
the talk light: make it a
game (“If we were to
pick up and go on
holiday right now,
where would we go?”)
SHE SAYS: “We used to
have more fun.”
DO THIS Inject the
relationship with a shot
of adrenaline. Plan side-
by-side activities that let
you both connect, like a
weekend rafting trip, or
check out a rock
climbing gym. “In that
excitement, you excite
each other,” explains Dr
Stan Tatkin, author of
Wired for Love.
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conveying commitment
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