Men_s Health Australia - April 2016__

SHE SAYS:“I need to

know more about what

you like and dislike.”

DO THISShare your

Netflix queues. Keep

your hair on; it’s not like

it’s your credit card PIN.

For couples, sharing is

all upside. It’s a subtle

way of conveying

commitment: it says,

“I trust you enough to

reveal my daily life”,

says Dr Timothy Loving,

apsychologistatthe

University of Texas at

Austin.

SHE SAYS:“I’m not sure

where this is going.”

DO THISPlan ahead

• way ahead. Preempt
  this conversation by
  filling your calendar
  withfunstuffyouliketo
  do together, says
  relationship coach
  DeAnna Lorraine.
  Enthusiasm is key. If
  you’re just casual, keep
  the talk light: make it a
  game (“If we were to
  pick up and go on
  holiday right now,
  where would we go?”)

SHE SAYS: “We used to

have more fun.”

DO THIS Inject the

relationship with a shot

of adrenaline. Plan side-

by-side activities that let

you both connect, like a

weekend rafting trip, or

check out a rock

climbing gym. “In that

excitement, you excite

each other,” explains Dr

Stan Tatkin, author of

Wired for Love.

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For couples, sharing is all

upside. It’s a subtle way of

conveying commitment

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