Elle Australia — May 2017

WEDDINGBLUES

DEAREJEAN,Every time I start

to plan my wedding, I feel

œžě˜ŒŠŽǯ ˜ –žŒ‘ ˜ ‘Ž

›Š’’˜—Š•ŒŽ›Ž–˜—¢’œ›˜˜Ž

’—œŽ¡’œ–ǻȃ’Ÿ’—Š Š¢Ȅ‘Ž

bride, wearing “virginal”

 ‘’Žǰ ŽŒǼǰ Š— —˜  ’Ȃœ

time˜ ꗊ•’œŽ ‘’—œǰ “žœ

 Š— ˜ ‘’Žǯ ¢ ꊗŒ· ’œ

ꗎ ’‘Šœ–Š•• Ž’—˜›

Š‹’˜—ŽǰŠ— ŽȂ›Ž‘ŽŠ’—

˜ Š›œ Š ŘŖŖȬ™Ž›œ˜— Š¢ǯ

I˜—Ȃ ”—˜  ’ ’Ȃœ ‘Ž žŽœ

•’œǰ ‘Ž Œ‘ž›Œ‘ ŒŽ›Ž–˜—¢

or an inner aversion to

traditional  Ž’—œ ‘Š

‹˜‘Ž›œ –Ž –˜œǯ  •˜ ‘Šœ

been planned by my parents,

and I do feel obligated to

–Š”Ž‘Ž–‘Š™™¢ǯ“žœ ’œ‘

Œ˜ž•‹Ž–˜›Ž›Š —˜‘Ž

 ‘˜•Žȃ‹›’ŽȄ‘’—Ȯ‹ž‘Ž–˜›Ž Ž’—œŠĴŽ—ǰ

‘Ž–˜›Ž’œŠ—ŽŽ•›˜–‘˜œŽ ˜–Ž—’—‹’ ‘’Ž

›ŽœœŽœǯ

˜ ˜I”ŽŽ™my sanity?

• Must I Be “Given Away”?
  GIVEN,MYGLADIOLUSŒ‘ž›Œ‘ Ž’—Ƿ
  ˜ ’Ÿ’—ŽǷž
   ‘Ž›ŽȂœ‘ŽœŠŒ›Ž›ž•Ž‘ŠœŠŽœ¢˜ž–žœ‹Žȃ’ŸŽ—
  Š Š¢Ȅǵ ˜ǰ
  Ž›œŽ•ǰ’œ˜‹Ÿ’˜žœ•¢‹˜›Ž ’‘’ǰœ˜ ‘Ž—
  ‘Ž ™Šœ˜› œŠ¢œǰ ȃ‘˜ ’ŸŽ‘ ‘’œ  ˜–Š—ǵȄ ‘ž ¢˜ž›
  Š‘Ž› Š— –˜‘Ž› ǻ ‘˜ǰ ™Ž›‘Š™œǰ ‘ŠŸŽ ‹˜‘  Š•”Ž
  ¢˜ž˜ —‘ŽŠ’œ•ŽǼŠ—Š—œ Ž›ǰȃ’ŸŽ–¢œŽ•ǷȄ
  œ ˜› ‘Ž  ‘˜•Ž ȃŸ’›’—Š•Ȅ ‹žœ’—ŽœœDZ Šœ‘’˜—Š‹•Ž
  ‹›’Žœ  ˜›Ž ›Ž ž™ ž—’• ŗŞŚŖǰ  ‘Ž— žŽŽ— ’Œ˜›’Š
  œ‘˜Œ”Ž ‘Ž  ˜›• ‹¢  ŽŠ›’—  ‘’Ž ˜ –Š››¢ ›’—ŒŽ
  •‹Ž›ǯǻ‘ŽŠ•œ˜™›˜™˜œŽ˜‘’–ǰ‹¢‘Ž Š¢ǯǼ–Š”Žœ
  ¢˜ž  ’œ‘
  Ž› Š“Žœ¢  Ž›Ž œ’•• Š›˜ž—ǰ “žœ ˜ œ‘˜ 
  ‘Ž› ‘Š ¢˜ž ŒŠ— ’ŸŽ ›Š’’˜— Š  ’Ĵ¢ œ™’—ǰ ˜˜ǯ ŽŠ›
   ‘Š‘žŽ¢˜žŒ‘˜˜œŽǰ‹ž’¢˜žŠœ”¢˜ž›ŘŖŖžŽœœ˜
  ˜— ‘’ŽȮ£˜ž—œǷ‘ŽŒ‘ž›Œ‘˜—¢˜ž› Ž’—Š¢
   ’•• œ‘’––Ž› ’— œ‘ŠŽœ ˜ Ÿ˜›¢ ›ŽŠ–œ’Œ•Žǰ ˜œ–’Œ
  ŒžŽŽ—ǰŠ•’—Ž›ŠŒ”Ž›Š—žŠ—ž–¢œŽ›ǯ
  ’‘ ›ŽŠ› ˜ ¢˜ž› ȃœŠ—’¢Ȅǰ ‹›’Žœ Š• Š¢œ •˜œŽ ’
  ‹Ž˜›Ž Š  Ž’—ǯ ž  ‘Ž— ‘Ž Š¢ Š››’ŸŽœǰ Š— ‘Ž
  –’—’œŽ› ‘Šœ ™›˜—˜ž—ŒŽ ¢˜ž ‘žœ‹Š— Š—  ’Žǰ Š—
  you turn around to see your guestsǰ¢˜žȂ••ž—Ž›œŠ—
  ’Ȃœ —˜ Š‹˜ž ‘Ž ›Š™™’—œǯ Ȃœ Š‹˜ž ‘Ž ŘŖŖ ™Ž˜™•Ž
   ’—”•’—Š Š¢ŽŠ›œŠ—•˜Ÿ’—¢˜žȮ‘ŠȂœ ‘Š ’••
  –Š”Ž¢˜ž› Ž’—œ˜ ˜—Ž›ž•ǯ

OBJECTOFMYOBSESSION

DEAR E JEAN, Ȃ– Řśǰ Š••ǰ

Œž›Ÿ¢ǰ—˜ž•¢Š—Š™Š’—Ž›ǯ

‘ŠŸŽ ˜˜ ›’Ž—œ Š—

a wonderful boyfriend, but

˜› ‘›ŽŽ ¢ŽŠ›œ —˜  ȂŸŽ

œŠ•”Ž ‘Ž ’›• –¢

ex-boyfriend dumped me

˜›ǯ ‘ŠŸŽ •˜— •Ž ˜ ˜ Š—¢

ŽŽ•’—œ ˜› –¢ Ž¡ǯShe’œ ‘Ž

˜—ŽŒŠ—Ȃœ‘Š”ŽǯŒ‘ŽŒ”‘Ž›

—œŠ›Š– Š— ŠŒŽ‹˜˜”

several times a day and I feel

–¢ ’—œŽŒž›’’Žœ –˜ž— ŽŠŒ‘

timeǯ˜Žœ—Ȃ‘Ž•™‘Šœ‘ŽȂœ

˜—Ž ˜ ‘˜œŽ œž™Ž›Ȭœ”’——¢

¢™Žœ  ’‘ ™Ž›ŽŒ ‹˜—Ž

œ›žŒž›Ž Š— Š ‹žœ¢ œ˜Œ’Š•

•’ŽǯȂ–Ž–‹Š››ŠœœŽȮ˜—Ȃ

 Š—˜‹Ž‘’œ”’—˜ ˜–Š—Ƿ



˜ ˜œ˜™˜‹œŽœœ’—ǵ

• Seeking Your Spiritual Guidance
  SEEKING, MY SHALLOT˜ ‹›ŽŠ” Š œŠ•”’— ‘Š‹’ǰ ‘Ž ꛜ
  ‘›ŽŽ›ž•ŽœŽŸŽ›¢‹˜¢Ž•œŽ ’••Ž••¢˜ž˜›¢Š›ŽDZ
  1.Š¢˜ěœ˜Œ’Š•–Ž’Šǯ
  2.—˜••˜ ‘Ž›˜—ŠŒŽ‹˜˜”Š——œŠ›Š–ǯ
  3.Ž•ŽŽ Š•• Š™™œ •’”Ž —Š™Œ‘Šǰ ˜žž‹Žǰ ’—”Ž—ǰ
  ž–‹•›ǰŽ’ǰ’—Ž›ŽœǰŽŒǯ
  ›ŽĴ¢ ˜˜ ›ž•Žœǰ ›’‘ǵ ž ˜—Ȃ ‘’—” Š—¢˜—Ž
   ‘˜ ‘Šœ—Ȃ ‘Š ‘’œȦ‘Ž› ™‘˜—Ž Š”Ž— Š Š¢ ‘Šœ
  ever˜••˜ Ž ‘Ž–ǯ ˜ Ȃ– ’Ÿ’— ¢˜ž ‘›ŽŽ –˜›Ž
  rules ǻŠ”Š –¢ ’™œ ˜› ŽŠ•’œ’ŒŠ••¢ ŽŠ—’—
  ˜ž›œŽ•ěŠ•”’—ǼDZ
  4.ŽȂœ —˜ ”’ ˜ž›œŽ•ŸŽœǯ  ¢˜ž ›¢ —ž–‹Ž›œ ŗǰ Ř ˜› řǰ
   ‘’Œ‘œ˜ž—Ž¡ŒŽ••Ž—‹ž›Š‘Ž›’–™˜œœ’‹•Ž˜›Š—¢˜—Ž
   ’‘ŠŒŠ›ŽŽ›˜›Š‹›Š’—ǰ¢˜žȂ••—˜’ŒŽ‘Ž¢˜—Ȃ˜›‹’
  ˜˜•’—ǯ — ‘Ž Ž–™Š’˜— ˜ ˜˜•Ž ’œœ ˜—Ž
  ›žŒž›Ž  ’•• ‹Ž ’—Ž—œŽǯ ‘Ž›Ž˜›Žǰ ¢˜ž –žœ  ›’Ž
  ˜ —‘›ŽŽ‘’—œ¢˜ž•˜ŸŽŠ‹˜ž¢˜ž›œŽ•‹Ž˜›Ž¢˜žȂ›Ž
  Š••˜ Ž ˜ ˜˜•Ž ‘Ž›ǯ ‘ŠȂœ ‘›ŽŽ —Ž  ‘’—œ ŽŸŽ›¢
  ’–Ž¢˜žœ˜–žŒ‘Šœ•Š—ŒŽŠ‘Š ˜˜•ŽœŽŠ›Œ‘‹˜¡ǯ
  5.Ž˜›Ž Œ›ŽŽ™’— ˜— ‘Ž› ›’Ž—œ ǻ˜ œŽŽ  ‘Š œ‘ŽȂœ ž™
  ˜’—‘Ž’›™‘˜˜œǼǰ¢˜ž–žœ Š•”˜—Ž”’•˜–Ž›Žǯǻ‘ŠȂœ
  ˜—Ž”’•˜–Ž›Žǰ™Ž›œŠ•”ǰ™Ž››’Ž—ǯ—Ž›ŽŠœ˜—¢˜žŽŸŽ—
  ‘ŠŸŽŽŽ’œ˜Œ‘Š—Ž‘Ž’›ŽŒ’˜—˜¢˜ž›‘˜ž‘œǯǼ
  6.˜•ž—ŽŽ›ŠŠ—˜›Š—’œŠ’˜—‘Š‘Ž•™œ¢˜ž—™Ž˜™•Ž
  ‹Ž’—‹ž••’Ž˜—•’—ŽǯŽŽ—ŒŽ•Žœœ¢˜ž— ˜–Š— ‘˜
  ŽŽ•œ œ‘Ž ‘Šœ —˜ ‘Ž›Ž ˜ ž›—  ˜ž• ‹Ž ˜žŒ‘Ž Š—
  ŽŽ™•¢›ŠŽž•˜‘ŽŠ››˜–¢˜žǯ‰

Tormented?Driven witless?

Fearnot,helpisjustashortletteraway

ask

e jean

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