‘BEN, WILL
YOU ACCEPT
THESE
GLASSES?’Q. Is sending a
follow-up text right
after a first date weird?A. OSHER: ‘I feel it’s
a nice way to cap off
the date – but it has
an expiry date. Send
it within an hour of
parting company.
Unless it’s nighttime
already – then send it
the next day. Any text
late in the evening can
be misunderstood as a
potential booty call.’MATTY: ‘I don’t think
there’s anything wrongQ. I HAD A GREAT
NIGHT WITH THIS
GUY I MET THROUGH
WORK AND THE
BANTER HAS BEEN
GOOD SINCE. WE’VE
DANCED AROUND
THE IDEA OF SEEING
EACH OTHER AGAIN,
BUT NEITHER OF US
ARE MAKING THE
MOVE. WHAT ARE
SOME SUBTLE HINTS
I CAN DROP TO LET
HIM KNOW I’M KEEN?A. OSHER: ‘Pick up
the phone and call.
Let him know you’re
free on the weekend
and that you should
have a lunch/dinner
together. If he can’t
make it, he’ll offer
an alternate date. If
he is reluctant, then
you’ve got good intel
that he might not be
into a second pass.’MATTY: ‘Why don’t
you organise a social
night with all your
colleagues and then
invite him along?
That way you can
test the chemistry
between the two of
you and see if he’s
actually someone
you would want to
get involved with
romantically.’ #with sending a message
late at night. Just make
sure you don’t word it
in a way that gives the
wrong impression.’Q. My new guy is
great, but has an
unusual sense of
humour – my friends
take it the wrong way.
How do I act?A. OSHER: ‘Just laugh
if you find it funny. If
he’s a bit odd, that’s fine.
If he’s being outwardly
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him once only that that
kind of thing isn’t OK.’MATTY: ‘As long as his
jokes aren’t offensive
and he isn’t making fun
at the expense of your
friends, I don’t see a
problem with it. The
only thing that matters
is if you like his sense of
humour. Sometimes it
takes a while to warm
up to someone else’s
humour. Reassure your
friends that he’s great
and give it another shot
hanging out together.’Q. He’s suggested
dinner but hasn’t set
a date. Is it a sign he’s
not keen, or should
I make plans?A. OSHER: ‘Absolutely
make plans, but only
once. If he doesn’t make
the night, that’s good
information. I’d with
hold any other contact
until dinner happens.’MATTY: ‘I’d suggest a
date and put the ball in
his court. If he doesn’t
make plans then alarm
bells are ringing!’sex & relationships