compromise, and to show up for
each other, but also for ourselves.”
Despite their differences around
domestic issues, Grace is clearly
deeply in love, and watching the
two of them chat on her recent
YouTube post, it’s obvious that the
feeling is mutual.
The fact that Lee had started
therapy prior to their meeting
is an important factor in their
relationship, according to Grace. “I
think it’s really weird that Lee had
just had his first session of therapy
before meeting me! I always said
I couldn’t date a man who’s not in
therapy. I think it’s because I’m so
self-aware and healing, and I need
a man who’s doing the same.”
She’s deeply respectful of Lee and
his experiences of counselling.
“I’m really proud of him for going
to therapy; I think mental health
for men is such a minefield –
it’s even more taboo than it is
for women, especially being a
black man. In the Jamaican and
Caribbean culture, it’s so taboo
and under the radar.”
Lee’s transparency around
mental health support has had
a ripple effect, too, opening up
the possibility of counselling to
members of his family, friends,
and colleagues within the music
profession. “Talking about mental
health, especially for black men in
that industry, it’s just incredible,”
Grace enthuses. “I’m so proud of
him. I just love him – he’s the most
incredible man I have ever met.
He’s just like this beam of light.”
Grace has an amazingly positive
energy. She says what she feels –
and she says it with gusto. She’s
passionate about mental health
and wellness, and is committed“I met this guy on Bumble,” she
smiles broadly. “I literally knew
within a second that he was ‘the
one’.”
Lee and Grace took the
conversation from online, to
phoneline and: “After we had our
first conversation, I panicked. I
cried. I actually cried! I was like:
‘I’ve just met my soulmate, the
other half of me. And now I’m
sh*tting it!’
“I’d made all these plans to
work on myself, and be single to
work on myself, which I’m still
doing, but the universe works
in wonderful ways and it was
obviously time that we met.”
Earlier this year, Grace left south
London and moved in with Lee,
in north-west London, where, she
says, the energy feels positively
different, and there is a massive
sense of community – something
that pleases her, as a self-professed
homebody.
Moving in with Lee has also
signalled a different type of
‘homecoming’, and Grace is
reflective about their new
beginning together. “I feel like I’ve
worked so hard to have this life,
and it’s slowly forming in front of
me. This is what I always wanted as
a kid.”
In true Grace style, she’s keen
to point out that there have been
learnings along the way. “I believe
in astrology and I’m a Virgo, so I’m
very organised and a clean freak- I like things in their places,” she
laughs. “Whereas Lee is a Pisces - the complete opposite – just
spread out and doesn’t realise how
much work it takes to have a nice,
clean, tidy home. So it’s been a
journey and we’re learning how to
20 • happiful.com • August 2019
“I think more
women should
believe that they
deserve to be
happy and ascend
in their power”
EXCITING NEWS!
We’re delighted to announce that
Grace Victory is Happiful’s new –
and first ever – columnist. Be sure
to check out our September issue
for Grace’s first column with us –
available from 15 August.