Animal instinct
The million-dollar question that
probably plagues pet owners across the
world–is it all right to have your dog
watch while you have sex? Answers
psychologist Manjula MK, “Experts
have concluded dogs and cats consider
things like sex normal unlike human
beings who think of it as a private
act.” However, the jury’s still out on
this. Your partner and you may feel
extremely uncomfortable if you are
being watched by your pet when you
are in the throes of passion.
What to do: First things first, if
you feel so strongly about it, make
sure your pet is safe and secure, and
doesn’t have access to your room—
so bolts in place, please! If your pet
does happen to wander in, and it
bothers you, swiftly carry it out,
and keep it a confined space until
you are done. “On the downside,
the endorphins released during sex
may send out signals to your dog
that you’re upset or angry, so you
may want to be a bit watchful about
how your pet reacts to it. If it seems
disturbed, aggressive, withdrawn or
its behaviour changes for the worse
immediately after watching you and
your partner in the act, ensure you
yourself by squatting on the floor,
inserting a finger and taking it
out gently and gradually. Don’t
use any pointed tools like tweezers
as there is a possibility of you
injuring yourself. If you’re still
unable to get the condom out
seek professional help from
a gynaecologist. “While the condom
itself is not a problem because
you can seek professional help to
remove it, the real issue is the
fact that you’ve put yourself at
risk of STDs and unplanned
pregnancies. So, to stay safe, get
your partner and yourself tested
to rule out any of these,” Dr
Jaggannathan advises.Sex-perimenting
It’s common for couples to try new
positions to spruce things up in bed.
Ever thought what if your attempt
backfires? Says Kaveri K, a 35-year-
old advertising professional, “After
having spend five years together, my
husband and I find ourselves willing
to experiment in the bedroom. But
sometimes things can go wrong! For
starters, once we were so focussed on
getting it technically right, we were
not turned on enough due to lack
of foreplay and spontaneity. Owing
to that the penetration just wasn’t
happening, since he’s found it hard to
get inside. And in this one instance,
I ended up getting injured by pulling
a muscle!”
What to do: No one is a gold-medal
gymnast; perhaps it’s time to
cut yourself some slack on the
flexibility front. “Giv a new
position time and effort to ease
into; don’t expect to get it right ini-
tially, even straightforward sex takes
time. Don’t push your partner or be
pushed into doing something that’s
beyond your physical capacity. Baby
steps are fine. If you’re unwilling
to take time and effort because
the spontaneity matters more,
stick to positions that you know
are reliable, and work for you,”
Kaveri opines.ON THE DOWNSIDE, THE
ENDORPHINS RELEASED
DURING SEX MAY SEND
OUT SIGNALS TO YOUR
DOG THAT YOU’RE
UPSET OR ANGRY, SO
YOU MAY WANT TO BE
A BIT WATCHFULdon’t repeat it and antagonise them.
In this case, prevention is definitely
better than cure,” Manjula MK says.Safety first
Sometimes, in the middle of heated
sex, the condom can slip off–and if
you’re lucky, it’s accessible and you can
pull it out. However, if the penetration
has been deep, and your partner’s just
pulled out with the condom missing,
you are stuck in a tricky situation
What to do: Firstly, stay calm. If
you work yourself up, your vaginal
passage may contract, making it
more difficult for you to yank out
the condom. First try to remove itA giggle between the
sheets is a great way to
lighten the mood