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youcause.Youalsostir
upenough
envy
among
yourpeerstoinducetreachery
andbackstabbing.
Becareful,
everso
careful,
intrumpetingyourown
achievements,andalways
talklessaboutyourself
thanaboutotherpeople.Modesty
isgenerallypreferable.
PracticeNonchalance.Neverseemtobe
workingtoohard.Yourtalentmust
appeartoflownaturally,
withaneasethatmakespeople
take
youforagenius
ratherthanaworkaholic.Evenwhensomething
demandsalotofsweat,makeitlookeffortless——peopleprefer
tonotsee
yourbloodand
toil,whichisanotherform
of
ostentation.
It
isbetterforthemtomarvel
at
howgracefullyyou
haveachievedyouraccomplishment
thantowonder
whyittooksomuchwork.Be
Frugalwith
Flattery.It
mayseemthatyoursuperiors
cannot
getenoughflattery,
buttoomuchofeven
agoodthing
losesitsvalue.Italsostirsupsuspicionamongyourpeers.
Learntoflatterindirectly—by
down-playingyour
own
contribution,
forexample,
tomake
yourmasterlookbet-ter.ArrangetoBeNoticed.There
is
a.paradox:
Youcannotdisplayyourself
toobrazenly,yetyou
mustalsogetyourself
noticed.InthecourtofLouisXIV,
whoevertheking
decidedtolookatroseinstantly
inthecourthierar-chy.
Youstandnochanceof
risingiftherulerdoesnotnotice
youintheswampofcourtiers.
This
taskrequires
much
art.It
isoften
initiallyamatterofbeing
seen,
intheliteralsense.Pay
attentiontoyourphysicalappear-
ance,then,
andfinda
waytocreateadis1inctive—-asubtlydistinctive-style
andimage.
AlterYour
Styleand
LanguageAccordingtothe
Person
YouAreDealingWith.
Thepseudo-belief
in
equa.lity——theideathat
talkingandactingthesame
waywith
everyone,nomatterwhattheir
rank,
makes
yousomehowa
paragonofcivilization—isaterriblemistake.Thosebelow
youwilltakeitasaformofcondescension,
whichit
is,andthoseabove
youwillbe
ofiended,althoughtheymay
notadmitit.Youmustchangeyourstyle
and
yourwayofspeaking
tosuiteach
person.Thisisnotlying,
it
isacting,
and
actingisan
art,
notagift
fromGod.Learntheart.Thisisalsotrueforthe
greatvarietyofculturesfoundinthemoderncourt:Neverassumethatyourcriteria
ofbehaviorandjudgment
areuniversal.Notonly
isaninabil-itytoadapt
toanother
culture
theheight
of
barbarism,it
putsyouatadis-advantage.
NeverBetheBearerofBadNews. The
kingkillsthe
messengerwhobrings
badnews:Thisisaclichebutthereistruthtoit.Youmuststruggle
andif
necessarylieandcheattobesurethatthelotofthebearerofbadnewsfallson
acolleague,
never
onyou.Bringonlygood
news
and
yourapproach
willgladden
yourmaster.