ahead,
Selassiemadesurethat
Gugsa’s
rebellionwouldcometo
nothing,
andthathecoulduseittodo
away
withhislasttwoenemies.
ThisistheessenceoftheLaw:Whenthewatersare
still,
youroppo~
nentshavethetimeand
space
to
plot
actionsthat
they
willinitiate
andcom
trol.Sostirthe
waters,
forcethefishtothe
surface,
get
themtoactbefore
they
are
ready,
stealtheinitiative.Thebest
way
todothisisto
play
onun-
controllable
emotions—-pride,vanity,
love,
hate.Oncethewaterisstirred
up,
thelittlefishcannot
help
butrisetothebait.The
angrierthey
become,
thelesscontrol
they
have,
and
finallythey
are
caught
inthe
whirlpoolyou
have
made,
and
they
drown.
A
sovereign
shouldneverlaunchan
army
out
of
anger.
aleadershouldnever
starta
warout
ofurrath.
Sun-zzu,
fourth
cmlury
.li.C.
KEYSTOPOWER
Angrypeopleusually
end
uplooking
ridiculous,
for
their
response
seems
outof
proportion
towhatoccasionedit.
They
have
taken
things
tooseri-
ously,
exaggerating
thehurtorinsultthathasbeendonetothem.
They
are
sosensitive
to
slight
thatitbecomescomicalhowmuch
they
take
person~
ally.
Morecomical
stillis
theirbelief
that
theiroutbursts
signifypower:
The
truthisthe
opposite:
Fetulance
isnot
power,
itisa
sign
of
helplessness.
People
maytemporarily
becowed
byyour
tantrums,
butintheend
they
lose
respect
for
you.They
alsorealize
they
can
easily
underminea
person
withsolittleselflcontrol.
The
answer,however,
isnotto
repress
our
angry
oremotionalre
sponses.
For
repression
drainsusof
energy
and
pushes
usinto
strange
be-
havior.lnsteadwehaveto
change
our
perspective:
Wehavetorealizethat
nothing
inthesocial
realm,
andinthe
game
of
power,
is
personal.
Everyone
is
caughtup
inachain
ofevents
that
longpredates
the
pre-
sentmoment.Our
anger
oftenstemsfrom
problems
inour
childhood,
fromthe
problems
ofour
parents
whichstemfromtheirown
childhood,
on
andon.Our
anger
alsohasrootsinthe
many
interactionswith
others,
the
accumulated
disappointments
andheartachesthatwehavesuffered.Anin-
dividual
willoften
appear
as
the
instigator
ofour
anger
butitismuch
more
complicated,goes
far
beyond
whatthatindividualdid
to
us.
Ifa
person
ex-
plodes
with
anger
at
you(and
itseemsoutof
proportion
towhat
you
didto
them),
you
mustremind
yourself
thatitisnot
exclusively
directedat
you-—
donotbesovain.Thecauseismuch
larger,goesway
bad:in
time,
in-
volves dozensof
prior
hurts,
and is
actually
notworth
thebother
to
understand.Insteadof
seeing
itasa
personal
grudge,
lookattheemotional
outburstasa
disguisedpower
move,
an
attempt
tocontrolor
punishyou
cloakedintheformofhurt
feelings
and
anger.
Thisshift
of
perspective
willlet
youplay
the
game
of
power
withmore
clarity
and
energy.
Insteadof
overreasting,
and
becoming
ensnaredin
pet)»
DlT(2!lllllill
l'Rll’s'l'
Kirfyo.
an
officer
ofrhe
Second’rank,had
a
brwhercalled
the
High
Priest
R
yogaku,
an
extremely
bad-
lempered
mam.Nextto
his
monasterygrew
:2
large
nettle-treewhich
octraflonedtheruck-
rmme
peoplegave
him,
theNertletrze
High
Priest.“Tharnameis
outrageous,
”
ruin?the
highpriest,
andcut
downtheme.The
stump
still
beingleft.
peoplereferred
tohim
nowasthe
SlumpHigh
Priest.More
furious
thanever,
Ryogaku
had
the
rmmp
dugup
and
thrown
away,
butthis
left
(1
big
ditch.
People
nowcalled
himthe
Ditch
High
Priest.
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