Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

wants to be—the kind that just might fit in line with what
you’re looking for in a good, solid mate.
But if you ask him what his short-term goals are, and he tells
you something crazy, like “I’m in street pharmaceuticals, and
right now I have one block but my goal in the next few years
is to have ten blocks on the west side from Henry Street to
Brown Street,” well, then you know right then and there that
you can go on ahead and keep it moving. The same applies to
the man who states his short-term goals, but clearly has no plan
to implement them. For instance, if he says his dream is to be a
producer, but he’s not doing anything in the field to actually
become one—he’s not interning or working for a film com-
pany, he’s not writing or reading any scripts, he’s not making
any connections in the industry that might open some doors for
him, he hasn’t worked for four months and has no prospects of
a job in the field he says he’s interested in—then you know this
man doesn’t have a plan. And if he doesn’t have a plan, he’s not
going to achieve his short-term goal—or it’s really not a goal,
he’s just talking out of his behind. Either way, you may not
want to sign up for his plan. Just stick to your own. Sure, there’s
a chance that he might get it together and make it in the indus-
try, but why do you have to sign up for that? If he’s got this
whole pie-in-the-sky dream, figure out if he’s lying there look-
ing at the stars, or if he’s got a jet pack strapped to his back and
he’s about to take off to go grab that dream.