Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

that feeling, until all of the playing gets tired and we realize we
have to be grown-ups, or something—or someone—makes us
grow up.
But here’s what you need to know: men are pretty clear that
marriage is what women want—that despite your indepen-
dence, despite the statistics that say half the marriages in Amer-
ica end in divorce, despite the amount of time, work, sweat, and
tears you know you’ll have to pour into building an imperfect
relationship, in the end, you women still believe in the fairy tale
of the husband and the house and the white picket fence and the
2.5 kids.
Men are also clear that they can slowly give out the things
that make it seem like they’re making the march to the altar—
just to keep you hanging in there. Trust me when I say this:
men do everything with a purpose, and in the case where a
man dates you for an extended length of time, or moves in with
you, or gives you a ring, but still refuses to be pinned down on
setting a wedding date? He’s doing it to lock you down. He
wants you, and he doesn’t want anyone else to have you.
And I’m here to tell you, the only reason a man gets away
with a lengthy engagement or holds off the proposal altogether
is because his woman hasn’t required him to set the date; she is
stupidly sitting there allowing her boyfriend to dictate to her
when he’s ready, though she slept with this man, cut off any
other prospective husbands, and, in some cases, moved in with
him and even had his children.
I simply can’t be diplomatic here.