But I contend they don’t do the things that real men are expected
to do because no one—especially, women—requires it of them
(see my chapter “Men Respect Standards—Get Some”).
In sum, ladies, you have to stop heaping your own defini-
tion of love on men and recognize that men love differently.
A man’s love fits only into three categories. As I’ve explained,
I call them “The Three Ps of Love—Profess, Provide, and Pro-
tect.” A man may not go shopping with you to buy the new
dress for your office party, but a real man will escort you to that
party, hold your hand, and proudly introduce you all around
the party as his lady (profess); he may not cuddle you and sit by
the bed holding your hand while you’re sick, but a real man
who loves you will make sure the prescription is filled, heat up
a can of soup, and make sure everybody is in position until you
are better (provide); and he may not willingly change diapers,
wash the dishes, and rub your feet after a hot bath, but a real
man who loves you sure will walk through a mountain and on
water before he’d let someone bring any hurt or harm to you
(protect). This much you can believe.
If you’ve got a man who does these things for you, trust me,
he’s all in.