let divorces drag on as long as you allow them to. If
they’re getting their needs met, why rush? Why put
himself through the extra turmoil, the trouble, the
hassle? He can just let things drag on. He can do his
thing on the side with you and not have any urgency
in the situation.
I’ve known people who’ve ended up being
separated for years, several years before ever getting
a divorce finalized. You never know how long a
divorce is going to drag out. Again, it’s very dangerous
to entertain a “technically still married” man.
Now, you might be reading this and thinking,
“Well, I would never mess with a married man,
separated or not. I would never bother with this
kind of a situation.” You’re preaching to the choir. I
hear you. Good for you if you wouldn’t entertain it.
However, before you feel like you can skip this
chapter because you don’t think it would be
beneficial to you. I know plenty of women who have
found themselves in this very situation who also
thought they would never be in it.
I’m not questioning your position here. However,
you never know what you may find yourself in. You
just never know. Sometimes a woman doesn’t go
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