However, it’s not a normal situation. Acting like it
is will lead you to shooting yourself in the foot. If he’s
that serious about you, if he’s that serious about
getting his divorce, then you don’t need to keep giving
and waiting. Broken promises and wasted time are a
very damaging situation for you to be in. You don’t
need to give so much to him, thinking he’s eventually
going to leave his wife, and then it never happens.
I want you to ask yourself something. If you are
in this situation, Why? Why are you holding on?
Ask yourself that question because I need to bring
the accountability factor in here. Sure, he has a
responsibility here but so do you. Too many times
people like to point the finger at the man and the
female party in this situation likes to play the victim.
However, neither approach is healthy. I believe in
both parties accepting responsibility for their part.
Saying that to say that I’ve seen a lot of women
be willing to entertain a married man not because
its true love involved, not because he’s truly the best
man for them, but simply because it’s a dynamic
that allows them to have companionship without
needing to be vulnerable. Since he’s still married, the
marriage serves as a kind of buffer.
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