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It holds that the husband should make all decisions for the family.
But Kehr and his wife have an emotionally intelligent marriage. Kehr
says he sees no conflict between his beliefs and accepting influence
from his wife. He told me, "I wouldn't think about making a decision
she disagreed with. That would be very disrespectful. We talk and
talk about it till we both agree, and then I make the decision." Kehr
intuitively realizes that a marriage can't work unless both partners
honor and respect each other. That's true whatever your belief
system.
In many cases, I suspect, men who resist letting their wives
influence them are not even aware of this tendency. There are men
who consider themselves feminists who interact with their wives in
ways that belie this label. Case in point: a hardworking software
engineer named Chad. If you asked him in the abstract his view on
gender roles, he'd come out squarely on the side of a fifty-fifty
marriage. But that's not what was playing out in the new home into
which he and his wife Martha just moved. One night he announced
that he would have to work late that Thursday Martha reminded him
that her mother was coming to visit on Friday and that she was
counting on him to help her clean the house and get the guest room
ready. "I'm really upset with you," Martha said bluntly. "Don't you
remember that my mother is coming? Why can't you shift your
schedule around?"
"Why didn't you remember I have this big project due? There's
no way I can change my schedule. I have to work--maybe even the
entire weekend," said Chad. His response upped the ante. First he
was defensive--instead of responding to Martha's complaint, he
volleyed back a complaint of his own: Why didn't she remember his
schedule? Then he threatened her by suggesting that he would have
to work even more than he had initially said. This was really a kind
of belligerence. He goaded her in "here's mud in your eye" style.
Martha became furious. She called him a lot of unfortunate
names and stormed out of the room. Chad felt like he had just been
victimized. After all, he had to work. As usual, her fury seemed to