for a down payment on a house. Oscar says the inheritance is really
not enough to make a dent in a down payment, so why not use it for
something they could enjoy right away? But Mary believes that every
little bit adds up and that they have to save as much as they can all
the time.
Solvable Perpetual
- Anita thinks Bert is stingy about tipping waiters, cab drivers, and
so on. This upsets her because part of her image of a strong, sexy man
is someone who's generous. When she's disappointed with Bert, she
gets very contemptuous of him. Meanwhile, Bert believes that Anita
is too loose with their money, which makes him nervous. To him,
money represents security and a sense of control over his life, so it's
hard to give any of it up.
Solvable Perpetual
Answers
- Solvable. Cliff has stopped taking out the garbage only recently
and for a specific reason that's not related in any deep way to his
relationship with Lynn--namely, he's under a lot of stress at work.
This problem could be solved in any number of ways--from putting a
sign on the refrigerator door to remind him, to reshuffling their
domestic chores so that Lynn gets garbage detail for a while until
Cliff's work deadline passes. - Perpetual. This problem suggests a core difference between Elise
and Joel in their personalities and what they need from each other to
feel close and connected. This difference is unlikely to change--they'll
need to adjust to it. - Perpetual. Ingrid and Gary are engaged in a meta communication
war. This means that they aren't having difficulty communicating
about a certain issue; they're having difficulty communicating about
how to communicate. This is not related to a specific situation but is
present whenever they have a disagreement.