Stop Action!
- I might be wrong here.
- Please, let's stop for a while.
- Let's take a break.
- Give me a moment. I'll be back.
- I'm feeling flooded.
- Please stop.
- Let's agree to disagree here.
- Let's start all over again.
9.Hang in there. Don’t withdraw.
10.I want to change the topic.
11.We are getting off track.
I Appreciate
- I know this isn’t your fault.
- My part of this problem is...
- I see your point.
- Thank you for...
- That’s good point.
- We are both saying...
- I understand.
- I love you.
- I am thankful for...
10.One thing I admire about you is...
11.This is not your problem, it’s our problem.
Formalizing repair attempts by using these scripted phrases can
help you defuse arguments in two ways. First, the formality of a
script ensures that you will use the type of words that work well for
putting on the brakes. Second, these phrases are like megaphones-
they help ensure that you pay attention to a repair attempt when
you're on the receiving end.
Now it's time to use the above checklist to help you resolve an
issue in your marriage. Choose a low-intensity conflict to discuss.