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engineer seemed like a realistic goal. But to pay the higher tuition this
would entail, Gene would have to postpone his dream of buying a
cabin in the mountains. Although Gene cared deeply about his son's
education, he also worried that if they didn't buy a home now, they'd
get priced out of the market and would never realize his lifelong
dream. Gene wanted Tina to go back to work full time so they could
afford the college tuition and the country home. But Tina was
resisting because her very elderly mother lived with them and
depended on Tina for her daily care. Gene and Tina were at this point
having almost daily fights over the issue. Gene thought it was time
for Tina's sister to take over her mother's care. But Tina's sister
worked full time and said she wasn't able to do that. The other option
was to put her mother in a nursing home, but Tina was dead set
against such a decision.
When Tina and Gene filled out the budgeting form, a simple
solution did not present itself. But the process of looking through
their expenditures together transformed the emotional climate
between them dramatically Rather than arguing about the issues,
they felt like a team again. They made lists of the various pieces of
information they needed to find out about student loans and
scholarships.In the end, Gene accepted that he would have to
postpone his dream for a few more years. Tina did go back to work,
but only on a part time basis. Gene was able to shift his work hours
so that he could be home with his mother-in-law while Tina was
away and Brian was able to take out enough student loans to allow
him to go to the state university.
The problems and solutions encountered by these couples are
unlikely to match yours. The point is that whatever your
disagreement over finances, you'll defuse the tension by working as a
team to devise a plan you both can accept, even if it doesn't give you
everything you want right now.