dictated a change in his riding technique. If the cycle tour was to be a
family affair, he could not keep a cadence that would put him too far
ahead of less-skilled riders. His desire to serve kept the sport from
becoming sport for sport’s sake.
Psychological Adjustment
(^) What about concern for psychological adjustment? Let’s think
through a social example. What do you do in response to the bully?
Many parents want to help their child learn the “manly art of self-
defense.” They try to teach their sons how and when to fight. I have
heard Christian parents give their sons this advice: “Don’t you ever
start a fight, but if someone starts a fight with you, then you end it.”
In other words, “Don’t be the aggressor, but if need be, knock his
block off.” Biblical advice? How can a parent get from “knock his
block off” to “pray for God’s help”? Shall we pray for God’s help to
knock his block off?
(^) In a biblical vision, you should instruct your children to entrust
themselves to God in the face of unfair treatment. You should teach
them the principles of the Scripture. Romans 12:17–21 tells us that
the only weapon strong enough to overcome evil is good. We are
exhorted to leave vengeance with God. He will deal with the issue of
justice. Luke 6:27–36 helps us understand how to love our enemies
and do good to those who hate us. It promises that we will be sons of
the One who is kind to ungrateful and wicked people. 1 Peter 2:23
tells us to face injustice without retaliation, entrusting ourselves to
God. You should encourage your children to see the needs of those
around them. You should help them learn to make peace. You should
teach that a soft answer turns away wrath. Train your children to use
occasions when hurt to learn how to love God and deepen their trust
and confidence in him.
Saved Children
(^) Let’s rethink this matter of getting your children saved. Perhaps