The Conscious Parent

world.
If, instead, they observe us flowing with our reality without tightness
or heavy-duty mental activity, they learn to respond to their own life the
same way. By modeling an attitude of trust, and approaching life with
gracious ease based on this trust, we teach our children to draw wisdom
from all of their circumstances, instead of viewing some aspects of life
as “good” and others as “bad.”
Life is to be experienced, not fought against, run from, or engaged
halfheartedly. Though we may wish to make changes in the future, to be
conscious is to be with an experience as it’s unfolding, rather than
thinking about how we would like to change it. Taking charge of our life
so that we alter the quality of our experiences in the future comes after
an experience.
When we embrace life itself as a wise guide, we dare to entrust
ourselves to it completely, free of evaluation, judgment, or analysis.
Leaving behind any feeling that life is somehow a threat to us, we
commit ourselves to its flow. When we allow ourselves to really feel
each experience as it happens, then—instead of trying to attach ourselves
to it— release it into the flow of the next moment, we free up psychic
energy that would otherwise be squandered on resistance and reactivity.
This energy is then available for us to bring engaged presence to our
relationships, especially with our children. As our children also learn to
experience their experiences without the need to “do” anything about
them necessarily, they ease into life as it is. They see the pleasure in the
simplest of experiences and reap the rewards of being fully present in the
moment. So that my daughter learns to own her experiences in their as is