Parenting With Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility

problem solving? Or do I think this child needs a sixty-second rant and a
hug afterward, with me saying, ‘The reason I’m so angry, dear, is because
you’re the type of kid who could’ve handled the situation so much
better.’”
The decision to use anger must be dispassionate, not a flying-off-the-
handle, finger-poking-the-chest bawl-out. Generally speaking, anger
should be used only when our children’s behavior directly affects us, as
using it often diminishes its effect.