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of yourself, you can give and sacrifice for loved ones in a helpful
way instead of giving in to destructive behavior and self-
centeredness. This kind of freedom allows one to give in a way
that leads to fruit. Remember, “no greater love has anyone than
to lay down his life for his friends.” This is to live up to the law
of Christ, to serve one another. But this must be done out of
freedom, not boundaryless compliance.
Setting and receiving firm boundaries with your spouse can
lead to a much greater intimacy. But you not only need to
address boundaries with your spouse; you need to address
boundaries with your children. And it’s never too late to start.
Boundaries