physical pain, we’re usually extremely
proactive about figuring out how to make
it go away immediately because, you
know, it hurts. Even if we have to go
through more pain from pouring a
disinfectant that stings on an open wound
or suffering through getting stitches, we
do it, right away, because we’re very
focused on our ultimate goal: relief.
When it comes to our emotional pain,
however, we’re apparently way more
game for seeing just how much torture
we can endure, wallowing in our guilt,
shame, resentment, and self-loathing,
sometimes for entire lifetimes. We
prolong our misery by holding on to our
ill feelings by badmouthing our mother