importanttoyou.I'msorryifthisishardtohear.Iknowyouaredoingyourbest.Iappreciate
how hardyouwork.
Iloveyou,Bonnie
AfterreadingaboutherfeelingneglectedIrealizedthatItrulywasgivingmoretomyclientsthanIwasto
her.Iwouldgivemyundividedattentiontomyclientsandthencomehomeexhaustedandignoremywife.
When a Man Overworks
IwasignoringhernotbecauseIdidn'tloveherorcareforherbutbecauseIhadnothinglefttogive.I
naivelythoughtIwasdoingthebestthingbyworkinghardtoprovideabetterlife(moremoney)forher
and our family. Once I understood how shefelt, I developed a plan for solving this problem in our
relationship.
InsteadofseeingeightclientsadayIstartedseeingseven.Ipretendedthatmywifewasmyeighthclient.
EverynightIcamehomeahourearlier.Ipretendedinmymindthatmywifewasmymostimportant
client.IstartedgivingherthatdevotedandundividedattentionIwouldgiveaclient.WhenIarrivedhome
Istarteddoinglittlethingsforher.Thesuccessofthisplanwasimmediate.NotonlywasshehappierbutI
wastoo.
Gradually,asIfeltbeinglovedforthewaysIcouldsupportherandourfamily,Ibecamelessdriventobe
agreatsuccess. Istartedtoslowdown, andtomysurprisenotonly ourrelationshipbutalsomywork
flourished,becomingmoresuccessfulwithoutmyhavingtoworkashard.
IfoundthatwhenIwassucceedingathome,myworkreflectedthatsuccess.Irealizedthatsuccessinthe
workworldwasnotachievedthroughhardworkalone.Itwasalsodependentonmyabilitytoinspiretrust
inothers.WhenIfeltlovedbymyfamily,notonlydidIfeelmoreconfident,butothersalsotrustedand
appreciatedmemore.
How a Women Can Help
Bonnie'ssupportplayedabigpartinthischange.Inadditiontosharingherhonestandlovingfeelings,she
wasalsoverypersistentinaskingmetodothingsforherandthengivingmealotofappreciationwhenI
didthem.Gradually,Istartedtorealizehowwonderfulitistobelovedfordoinglittlethings.Iwasrelieved
fromfeelingthatIhadtodogreatthingstobeloved.Itwasarevelation.
WHENWOMENGIVEPOINTS.......................................................................................................
Womanpossessthespecialabilitytoappreciatethelittlethingsoflifeasmuchasthebigthings.Thisisa