Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

(Tina Meador) #1

What She Can Do


The wayofsolvingthisproblem isto understanditcompassionately from both sides. He needsto be
appreciated,whilesheneedstofeelsupported.Otherwisetheirsicknessgetsworse.


Thesolutiontothisresentmentisforhertotakeresponsibility.


Sheneedstotakeresponsibilityforhavingcontributedtoherproblembygivingmoreandlettingthescore
getsouneven.Sheneedstotreatherselfasifshehasthefluoracoldandtakearestfromgivingso
muchintherelationship.Sheneedstopamperherselfandallowherpartnertotakecareofhermore.


Whenawomanfeelsresentful,sheusuallywillnotgiveherpartnerachancetobesupportive,or,ifhe
tries,shewillnegatethevalueofwhathehasdoneandgivehimanotherzero.Sheclosesthedoortohis
support.By takingresponsibilityforgivingtoomuch,shecangiveupblaminghimfortheproblemand
startanewscorecard.Shecangivehimanotherchanceand, withhernewunderstanding,improvethe
situation.


What He Can Do


Whenamanfeelsunappreciated,hestopsgivingsupport.Awayhecanresponsiblydealwiththesituation
istounderstandthatitishardforhertogivepointsforhissupportandappreciatehimwhensheissick
withresentment.


Hecanreleasehisownresentmentbyunderstandingthatsheneedstoreceiveforawhilebeforeshecan
giveagain.Hecanrememberthisasheattentivelygiveshisloveandaffectioninlittleways.Forawhilehe
shouldnotexpecthertobeasappreciativeashedeservesandneeds.Ithelpsifhetakesresponsibilityfor
givinghertheflubecauseheneglectedtodothelittlethingsthatsheneeds.


Withthisforesighthecangivewithoutexpectingmuchinreturnuntilsherecoversfromherflu.Knowing
thathecansolvethisproblemwillhelphimreleasehisresentmentaswell.Ifhecontinuesgivingandshe
focusesontakingarestfromgivingandfocusesonreceivinghissupportwithlove,thebalancecanbe
quicklyrestored.


WHYMENGIVELESS..................................................................................................................


Amanrarely intendstotakemoreandgiveless. Yetmenarenotoriousforgivinglessinrelationships.
Probably you haveexperienced this in yourrelationships. Women commonly complain thattheir male
partnerstartsoutmorelovingandthengraduallybecomespassive.Menalsofeelunfairlytreated.Inthe
beginningwomenaresoappreciativeand loving,andthentheybecomeresentfulanddemanding.This

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