HOWMENGIVEPOINTS..............................................................................................................
Mengivepointsdifferentlyfromwomen.Everytimeawomanappreciateswhatamanhasdoneforher,he
feelslovedandgivesherapointinreturn.Tokeepthescoreeveninarelationship,amanreallydoesn't
requireanythingbutlove.Womendon'trealizethepoweroftheirloveandmanytimesunnecessarilyseek
toearnaman'slovebydoingmorethingsforhimthantheywanttodo.
Whenawomanappreciateswhatamandoesforher,hegetsmuchoftheloveheneeds.Remember,men
primarily needappreciation.Certainlyamanalsorequiresequalparticipationfromawomanindoingthe
domesticdutiesofday-to-daylife,butifheisnotappreciated,thenhercontributionisnearlymeaningless
andcompletelyunimportanttohim.
Similarly,awomancannotappreciatethebigthingsamandoesforherunlessheisalsodoingalotoflittle
things.Doingalotoflittlethingsfulfillsherprimaryneedstofeelcaredfor,understood,andrespected.
Amajorsourceofloveforamanisthelovingreactionthatawomanhastohisbehavior.Hehasalove
tanktoo,buthisisnotnecessarilyfilledbywhatshedoesforhim.Insteaditismainlyfilledbyhowshe
reactstohimorhowshefeelsabouthim.
Whenawomanpreparesamealforaman,hegivesheronepointortenpoints,dependingonhowsheis
feelingtowardhirn.Ifawomansecretlyresentsaman,amealshemaycookforhimwillmeanverylittle
tohim--hemayevengiveminuspointsbecauseshewasresentinghim.Thesecrettofulfillingamanliesin
learningtoexpresslovethroughyourfeelings,notnecessarilythroughyouractions.
Philosophicallyspeaking, whenawoman feels loving, herbehaviorwillautomatically expressthatlove.
Whenamanexpresseshimselfinlovingbehavior,automaticallyhisfeelingswillfollowandbecomemore
loving.
Evenifamanisnotfeelinghisloveforawoman,hecanstilldecidetodosomethinglovingforher.Ifhis
offeringisreceivedandappreciated,thenhewillbegintofeelhisloveforheragain.Doingisanexcellent
waytoprimeaman'slovepump.
However,womenareverydifferent.Awomangenerallydoesnotfeellovedifshedoesn'tfeelcaredabout,
understood,orrespected.Makingadecisiontodosomethingmoreforherpartnerwillnothelpherfeel
moreloving.Insteaditmayactuallyfuelherresentment.Whenawomanisnotfeelingherlovingfeelings,
sheneedstofocusherenergiesdirectlyonhealinghernegativefeelingsanddefinitelynotondoingmore.
Amanneedstoprioritize"lovingbehavior,"forthiswillensurethathispartner'sloveneedsaremet.Itwill
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