Yourunderstandingwillhelpmetoopenupandletgoofmynegativefeelings.Itrustthatyoudocareand
thatyouwillrespondtomyfeelingsinthebestwayyoucan.Iappreciateyourwillingnesstolistenand
supportme.InadditionIhopethatthisletterwillassistyouinunderstandingmywants,needs,andwishes.
Thepartnerwhoishearingtheletterneedstolisteninthespiritofthefollowingstatementofintent.
StatementofIntentforHearingaLoveLetter
Ipromisetodomybesttounderstandthevalidityofyourfeelings,toacceptourdifferences,torespect
yourneedsasIdomyown,andtoappreciatethatyouaredoingyourbesttocommunicateyourfeelings
andlove.
Ipromisetolistenandnotcorrectordenyyourfeelings.Ipromisetoacceptyouandnottrytochangeyou.
IamwillingtolistentoyourfeelingsbecauseIdocareandItrustthatwecanworkthisout.
ThefirstfewtimesyoupracticetheLoveLetterTechniqueitwillbemuchsaferifyouactuallyreadthese
statementsoutloud.Thesestatementsofintentwillhelpyouremembertorespectyourpartner'sfeelings
andrespondinaloving,safeway.
MINILOVELETTERS....................................................................................................................
Ifyouareupsetandyoudon'thavetwentyminutestowriteaLoveLetter,youcantrywritingaminiLove
Letter.Itonlytakesthreetofiveminutesandcanreallyhelp.Herearesomeexamples:
DearMax,
1 .Iamsoangrythatyouarelate!
2 .Iamsadthatyouhaveforgottenme.
3 .Iamafraidyoudon'treallycareaboutme.
4 .IamsorrythatIamsounforgiving.
5 .IloveyouandIforgiveyouforbeinglate.Iknowyoureallyloveme.Thankyoufortrying.
Love,Sandie
DearHenry,
1 .Iamangrythatyouaresotired.IamangrythatyouIjustwatchTV.
2 .Iamsadthatyoudon'twanttotalktome.
3 .Iamafraidthatwearegrowingapart.Iamafraidofmakingyouangry.
4 .IamsorrythatIrejectedyouatdinner.IamsorryIblameyouforourproblems.