Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

• Haveyouactedangrywhendeepinsideyouwereafraid?


• Doyoulaughandmakejokeswhenyouarereallysadandhurt?


• Haveyoubeenquicktoblameotherswhenyoufeltguiltyorafraid?

Thefollowingchartshowshowmenandwomencommonlydenytheirtruefeelings.Certainlynotallmen
willfitthemaledescriptionjustasnotallwomenwillfitthefemaledescription.Thechartgivesusawayto
understandhowwemayremainstrangerstoourrealfeelings.

WAYSWECOVERUPOURREALFEELINGS

Howmenhidetheirpain(Thisprocessisgenerallyunconscious)Howwomenhidetheirpain(Thisprocess
isgenerallyunconscious)

1.Men may use anger asa way ofavoiding the
painfulfeelingsofsadness,hurt,sorrow,guilt,and
fear.

1 .Womenmayuseconcernandworryasawayof

avoidingthepainfulfeelingsofanger,guilt, fear,

anddisappointment.

2.Men may use indifference and discouragement
asawayofavoidingthepainfulfeelingsofanger.

2. Women may fall into confusion as a way of

avoidinganger,irritation,andfrustration.

3. Men may use feeling offended as a way of
   avoidingfeelinghurt.

3. Women may use feeling bad as a way of

avoiding embarrassment, anger, sadness, and

regret.

4.Menmayuseangerandrighteousnessasaway
toavoidfeelingafraidoruncertain.

4 .Womenmayusefearanduncertainty asaway

ofavoidinganger,hurt,andsadness.

5. Men may feel ashamed to avoid anger and
   grieving.

5 .Womenmayusegrievingtoavoidfeelingangry

andafraid.

6 .Menmayusepeaceandcalmasawaytoavoid
anger,fear,disappointment,discouragement, and
shame.

6 .Womenmayusehopeasawaytoavoidanger,

sadness,grief,andsorrow.

7. Men may use confidence to avoid feeling
   inadequate.

7. Women may use happiness and gratitude to

avoidfeelingsadnessanddisappointment.

8.Menmayuseaggressiontoavoidfeelingafraid.

8 .Womenmayuseloveandforgivenessasawaytoavoidfeelinghurtandangry.