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Oneoftheparadoxesoflovingrelationshipsisthatwhenthingsaregoingwellandwearefeelingloved,
wemaysuddenlyfindourselvesemotionallydistancingourpartnersorreactingtotheminunlovingways.
Maybeyoucanrelatetosomeoftheseexamples:
1 .Youmaybefeelingalotofloveforyourpartner,andthen,thenextmorning,youwakeupandarean
noyedandresentfulofhimorher.
2 .Youareloving,patient,andaccepting,andthen,thenextday,youbecomedemandingordissatisfied.
3 .Youcan'timaginenotlovingyourpartner,andthen,thenextday,youhaveanargumentandsuddenly
beginthinkingaboutdivorce.
4 .Yourpartnerdoessomethinglovingforyou,andyoufeelresentfulforthetimesinthepastwhenheor
sheignoredyou.
5 .Youareattractedtoyourpartner,andthensuddenlyyoufeelnumbinhisorherpresence.
6 .YouarehappywithYourpartnerandthensuddenlyfeelinsecureabouttherelationshiporpowerlessto
getwhatyouneed.
7 .Youfeelconfidentandassuredthatyourpartnerlovesyouandsuddenlyyoufeeldesperateandneedy.
8 .Youaregenerouswithyourlove,andthensuddenlyyoubecomewithholding,judgmental,critical,angry,
orcontrolling.
- You are attracted to yourpartner, and then when he orshe makes a commitmentyou lose your
attractionoryoufindothersmoreattractive.
10 .Youwanttohavesexwithyourpartner,butwhenheorshewantsit,youdon'twantit.
11 .Youfeelgoodaboutyourselfandyourlifeandthen,suddenly,youbeginfeelingunworthy,abandoned,
andinadequate.
12 .Youhaveawonderfuldayandlookforwardtoseeing yourpartner, butwhenyouseehim orher,
somethingthatyourpartnersaysmakesyoufeeldisappointed,depressed,repelled,tired,oremotionally
distant.
Maybeyouhavenoticedyourpartnergoingthroughsomeofthesechangesaswell.Takeamomentto
rereadtheabovelist,thinkingabouthowyourpartnermaysuddenlylosehisorherabilitytogiveyouthe