isworthyoflove_-shedoesn'thavetoearnit;shecanrelax,giveless,andreceivemore.Shedeservesit.
Too Much Giving Is Tiring
To deal with their depression the Venusians were busy sharing their feelingsand talking abouttheir
problems.Astheytalkedtheydiscoveredthecauseoftheirdepression.Theyweretiredofgivingsomuch
allthetime.Theyresentedalwaysfeelingresponsibleforoneanother.Theywantedtorelaxandjustbe
takencareofforawhile.Theyweretiredofsharingeverythingwithothers.Theywantedtobespecialand
possessthingsthatweretheirown.Nolongerweretheysatisfiedbeingmartyrsandlivingforothers.
OnVenus,they livedby lose/winphilosophy_-"I losesothatyoucan win."Aslongaseveryonemade
sacrificesforothers, theneveryonewastaken careof.ButafterdoingthisforcenturiestheVenusians
werefiredofalwayscaringaboutoneanotherandsharingeverything.Theyalsowerereadyforawin/win
philosophy.
Similarly,manywomentodayarealsotiredofgiving.Theywanttimeoff,timetoexplorebeingthemselves,
timetocareaboutthemselvesfirst.Theywantsomeone toprovideemotionalsupport, someonethey
don’thavetotakecareof.TheMartiansfitthebillperfectly.
AtthispointtheMartianswerelearning to givewhiletheVenusians werenow ready tolearn how to
receive.AftercenturiestheVenusiansandMartianshadreachedanimportantstageintheirevolution.TTTThhhheeee
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Thissamechangecommonly takesplaceinmen andwomenasthey mature. Inheryoungeryears,a
womanismuchmorewillingtosacrificeandmoldherselftofulfillherpartner'sneeds.Inaman'syounger
years, heis much moreself-absorbed andunawareoftheneedsofothers.Asawomanmaturesshe
realizeshowshemay havebeengivingupherselfinordertopleaseherpartner.Asamanmatureshe
realizeshowhecanbet_terserveandrespectothers.
Asamanmatureshealsolearnsthathemaybegivinguphimself,buthismajorchangeisbecomingmore
awareofhowhecansucceedingiving.Likewise,asawomanmaturesshealsolearnsnewstrategiesfor
giving,buthermajorchangetendstobelearningtosetlimitsinordertoreceivewhatshewants.
Giving UP Blame
When a woman realizes she has been giving too much, she tends to blame her partner for their
unhappiness.Shefeelstheinjusticeofgivingmorethanshehasreceived.
Althoughshehasnotreceivedwhatshedeserved,toimproveherrelationshipssheneedstorecognizehow
she contributed to the problem. When a woman gives too much she should not blame her partner.